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It is really sad that my family accepts my wife whole hearte

It is really sad that my family accepts my wife whole heartedly and tells her she is part of our family now, weather she likes it or not lol. But, my wifes family pretends me and our children do not exist. The accuse me or using her. I work full time, make almost as much as my wife, plus I go to school full time. They're Southern Baptist and the reason gays are bad is because of their religion. If my family acted that way towards my wife I wouldn't have anything to do with them, period!

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IMOKRU's picture
[1725]
May 14

@IAmHealing "you have to respect what they believe religiously as well." not really! You don't have to respect them or like um, that's freedom. Sometimes you have to cut an arm off to save yourself, sometimes you have to let family members go because they are too brainwashed to deal with. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable around them and therefore, would not put up with their judgement. I would confront them after talking about it with my partner. Science and Religion are not equals, just like Fox news is not Walter Cronkite. I would have a serious talk with them including the fact if they can't be a positive influence (meaning showing love to both you and your wife) then all visitation with the kids will be monitored. good luck, I sure some might disagree, but you have to draw a line in the sand at some point and stop being the bottom everytime.

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Loveovercomes's picture
[1415]
May 14

Oh man... I litereally JUST watched boy erased... If any of you haven't seen it then please do. I have so much respect for the way they told the story and all of the actors do a PHENOMENAL job at portraying how love can overcome some really hard obstacles and moral conflicts.

I bring this up because I don't believe that either of you (Imokru or Iamhealing) are totally right or wrong.
Iamhealing- I think that we have to respect that people have their own beliefs and that it is hard to overcome some of that. But I also don't believe that we can just stand aside while they condemn something that they don't understand. That is how hate wins, I'm not saying that her in-laws hate her but it certainly sounds like they don't understand and they are condemning her for that. I think that we have to stand up to the hypocrisy of Christianity, Catholicism, Islam, Atheism, Agnosticism, etc. We HAVE to stand for love and acceptance, without hypocrisy from ourselves that's a tough task. So you're right in we have to respect but we don't have to stoop.

Imokru- Science and religion are not equals but neither one is also inferior to another. They can work symbiotically to each other. (just my own quick thought on that :-) ) But what I have to say is that when we abandon love in order to combat hate we are simply failing at our objective. The only way to truly combat hate is to face it with love. It is the only thing that will make any change in our life. So if we do stick up for what is right out of love and not from a place of pain or anger we will gain ground :-)

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May 15

That's the thing. Our kids don't know they even exist. They did not want anything to do with me or the kids so whatever. They live in TX, we live in AL. She sees them maybe 1x a year, so whatever. She doesn't hide me and she won't let them say anything bad, so I guess its that someone doesn't like me and it's bothering me lol.

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