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I am the wife of a compulsive gambler. My husband and I have

I am the wife of a compulsive gambler. My husband and I have been together for 15 years his gambling has been on going for the last ten. He is my best friend and the only thing we fight about is his gambling it’s gotten so bad as of recent that he’s decided the only way for him to stop is to leave and feel like he’s lost everything. I’m at a loss we have three children ages 13 to 5. I’m just trying to better understand so I can help him. Any advice would truly help

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Nov 8

Take care of yourself and the children first. It's good that he is acknowledging his problem. Take immediate action to control the household finances. Put all bank accounts in your name only so that he cannot withdraw funds. Do not let him have ATM or credit cards. Have all employment earnngs go directly deposited into the bank account. Give him a weekly allowance for lunch. Gas up his car once a week. Go with him to gamblers annonymous meetings. He's lucky he has your support.

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Nov 8

@2ndchances I’ve done that and it’s been that way for years. His big problem is betting and unfortunately you don’t have to have that money up front. I just feel lost right now I guess. I’ve been thinking of going to meetings by myself if he won’t go with me at least I can educate myself on how to handle things better

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Nov 16

No one can help your husband unless he wants the help and makes changes himself. He sounds like a very decent person otherwise. You are in a very difficult situation and it sound like you have tried everything possible within your reach. Good for you! Where do you see yourself and the children in five years? How long before you are emotionally spent and not able to be there for the kids? The caregiver always tends to neglect themselves. You won't be any good to your husband or the children if you keep this stressful journey without a light at the end of the tunnel. You can't go it alone. He HAS to shape up and be on board, or you have a though decision to make. Maybe he just has to hit rock bottom first. I feel for you. It's not easy. Follow your heart. Deep inside, you know what you need to do.

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