Hi this is my first group discussion ever. I don't know what
Hi this is my first group discussion ever. I don't know what to say except I'm devastated that my husband is into pornography again. I'm at a loss
You're very welcome! I am always willing to talk about my Lord
I'm sorry you are going through this. like people here of said its not about you it's about him. I thanked my spouse today for him not looking at porn anymore (it was a lie I don't mean to thank him, I said that to get information) he said ok. I told him its means a lot to me and I shared with him that he knows I believe porn takes away from our relationship. He then said to me he didn't care about my feelings and that porn doesn't take away from a relationship. That porn leads to possibly having an affair. He said I was crazy and porn doesn't lead to an affair. It's just fake and fantasy. He got one thing right it is fake and a fantasy but he still doesn't get it.He said there was nothing wrong with watching porn and that he doesn't care that my feelings are hurt. I then told I know he doesn't care because he is currently having an affair. He didn't say anything, he didn't have too. The point here is...porn does take away from a relationship and it is damaging. And if your spouse tells you any different I am sorry they are seriously mistaken and wrong. It's sad. Hang in there. I pray he"ll overcome the addiction. Hugs
thanks really, I feel like I'm saying the same thing over and over. it's so damaging. He said he's afraid I will leave this time.He said he will continue counseling and wants us to do CC also. He also said he needs to read the Bible more and ask God for help. Don't get me wrong I'm encouraged he is saying these things but it is like an exact carbon copy of what he said last time.When things get tough or he thinks I'm all in again, the commitment stops. I don't want to be angry all the time. it is destructive to me. I know actions will speak loafer than words from him. but I'm not seeing any actions just hearing what he plans to do. we have good friends who went through the same thing and are encouraging us. I still can't look at him without a sick feeling.