I am so angry. My mother has permitted my brother and his w

I am so angry. My mother has permitted my brother and his wife (who have drug issues) to move back in to her home where they will not pay for utilities or groceries. She has given them outrageous sums of money over the years (I bet it totals over $100,000 over the past two years alone). Neither of them have jobs but they have kids who are in and out of various school systems as they move so often. My mother was paying for their apartment but they were recently kicked out due to their life styles. I am sick and tired of seeing my mother be taken advantage of but apparently she likes it. She always has excuses for them as well and always claims they are doing "much much better." Yeah right.

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Oct 24

@Jenn4473 I guess that's what I have done this past week. Stepped away. Today is the 23rd anniversary of my brother's death. I sit here this morning with tears running down my face thinking how it has destroyed our family. His son being raised by a monster. Having no contact with my great nephew who is 2 because his mother is not much better than my nephew, both addicts. I took them to court for custody and they just handed him back to the addict mother, so I had to let him go. I cannot deal with her games and lies and BS. I loved that little joker. I try to think he was the good that came out of my brother's death, but dang, what kind of life is he going to have. Even her parents are addicts... And now her step dad is on heroin... wtf... Very sad day. I am always glad when this day slips by without my noticing. Holidays coming up... Family destroyed. I am blessed to have the friends I do in my life, but dang, I want my family back... :'(

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Oct 26

@Snoozeroni
I agree, your mother has chosen that imbecile over a normal life with her daughter. You can't be any more crystal or express yourself enough.
Do you know if he hits your mother? That is indeed a different playing field. Like your mom, my parents have forked out a lot of money on this bozo. Enough for a full college tuition with books, a new vehicle, living expenses, and even a nice graduation gift/ enough to start a business. Instead, for their kindness, shelter, food, etc., they got beat up by him. Before 2008, it was verbal, that I know of. Once they strike, they will do it again to get their fix, and he did. I've hit, kicked, even grind his face into the ground. It's like he loves all this attention. If I didn't already call the Police then and we weren't in the front yard where everyone could see and hear him (loves to loud, run around), I think I could have ended him. Makes me think of the series, "Bloodline" when a well-known detective drowns his brother in a physical altercation because of all the threats and mental anguish he caused the family. What I think about the most is all of the mistakes this good detective made afterward.
About a week has passed since he portrayed himself as my father and was able to get a new iPhone that cost over a grand (he has destroyed over 100 phones and has never paid anything). In order for my dad to get out of the new contract, he has to press charges. I figured my dad would puss out and let bozo walk all over him. So my dad's next thought was to take out an equity loan (idiot) and pay to have the lines, which use to belong to my deceased mother, terminated. I wasn't happy but felt somewhat content because I knew my brother would probably pitch a huge fit and possibly assault my dad, then authorities would learn why. I'm ready for his attack.
What do you need physical therapy on?
I just thought of something. What drug do they like that makes them pass out? Did you watch the series, "Sons of Anarchy?" The first episode, do you recall what Jax mother gave to his junkie wife in a Bible at the end? Well, if she weren't already in a hospital, she'd be toast for sure.

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Oct 26

@WorldBama Good morning... I hate to hear that no charges were pressed. My nephew has never assaulted my mom or her husband. I did turn him in to DHR, but they are such a joke and why his son is with the meth head jobless mother who sleeps with everyone in town. they printed a rant I put on FB where I said DHR was an effing joke and showed it in court and I told the judge.. "Yessir I wrote that and I'm not sorry for it, the truth is the truth." The lady at DHR said, as I already knew but the DA told me to try, that there was nothing they could do because mom is in her "right" mind for the most part, other than bad decisions. I'm going back into therapy over all this crap and everyone telling me to get over it. I have PTSD from a 10 year marriage to a narcissist, now 11 years out of that, and just put my sociopath boyfriend of 3 years in the road. He was a nice sociopath tho, just no empathy or consideration. Was not abusive at all. Helped me through a lot. He served his purpose. I'm extremely depressed. My nephew ran me out of the family home I inherited and I'm back at my place freezing my a$$ off, but am more at peace here. Closer to work and all my friends, but I feel like I am going backwards. It's tough being alone on the holidays when you had an awesome family at one time and those were great times, and now it's just you. I'll spend my holidays at the bar. Sad. I can't say I've thought about offing my nephew, just breaking his knees. I have often thought of offing his step dad for all the abuse that boy suffered his whole life tho... I laid in bed at night for 18 years thinking about that one. A preacher! And from what I hear, a pervert, is overfriendly with young girls. Hopefully karma will get them all, but it is nice to think we can give Karma a push. But the good guys always get it up the marunga dunga by the law, while the bad guys just keep on victimizing us and get out over and over. You and I would get life for doing the world a favor, so try to redirect your thoughts. I don't even carry my pistol when I do business in their area anymore. And one day, they are going to get some bad junk, or walk into the wrong yard to steal something and it will be all over for them. It never ends well for them and eventually will catch up to them. Something has got to give, but we have to take care of ourselves right now and let it play out. Thus, therapy. I will certainly share what I take from those sessions. There are a couple of places in Auburn that take Medicare, therapists, not psychiatrists. Shrinks just want to dope you up, therapists work on your thinking process. I told my best friend yesterday, as we watched the piping to my wood stove fall to the ground while we were trying to get it fixed, that I was just going to go inside and take a bottle or two of valium and have a nap... And last night when I went to sleep I said to myself, "self, something great could happen tomorrow, hang in there." So that's what I do... Put on an extra layer or two of clothes, put a smile on my face and keep pushing forward through the tears. <3

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