Hello, I'm not sure where to start really but here we go!

Hi threepercent, and welcome. I'll give you my three and a half cents of advice here. I have no idea what you know about addiction and or especially Shopping Addiction/Financial Problems. So here's my Addiction for Dummies advice. First, have two Bank accounts at two different banks. One can be the shared bank account with your wife, if you have it already. That would be your main account that has a separate Savings account also. This is where your check, (Once your back to work) should be going. Next have a second bank account elsewhere. This is where you keep a minimal amount of spending money. Whether it's for misc. groceries, milk, bread etc. Lunch money or what have you. Your main account bank card should not be in your possession at all. Leave it in your wifes care. One of the absolute biggest reasons people have addictions has to do with their past. I'm guessing you've gone over that with your therapists and figured out what. But one thing that makes the addiction continue on and even become greater is..... Boredom! Drinking, smoking, sex addiction and gambling and spending money. Don't give your mind a chance to wander and think about those things. Find or create a Hobby or many Hobbies. Sit down and think about what you want to do or would like to do in your spare time. I metal detect, prospect for gold. Hike, (often) camp, collect civil war memorabilia, stamps, currency from around the world, garden and other things. Keep yourself busy. Just because your wife is your wife...... start asking her out on a date once a week. Treat her like a girlfriend. Do things together, spend more time together and have fun. Between work, house keeping, taking care of a kid(s). Life can get into a rut. And boredom seeps in. Drinking and smoking pot are both major DOWNERS. They tire you out and relax you to the point where you don't want to "Get up and go". So quit them both. Again, it has a lot to do with keeping yourself busy. Next..... cheating on your wife. Paying hookers for 30 minutes of pleasure. Lets call it what it is, Cheating. Keep yourself busy, motivated and occupied. For whatever reasons, your past and childhood I'm guess. You've spoiled yourself. Your selfish and thoughtless to the point of possibly losing your wife and child. You've lost your job already. Start thinking about others around you. Next..... keep a journal. That's something many therapists suggest. Write in it everyday. Good, bad or in between. And yes..... Goals. Goals you can actually accomplish. One to start with, being a better husband. Each day, compliment your wife on the meal, her clothes etc. Think of her more. And what about other family members? You mom, sis or whoever. Call them more, text.... let them know you think of them. Do you have a yard? Work in it. There's a Bacterium in soil called, Mycobacterium Vaccae. It works like Prozac and actually makes you feel good and HAPPY. World wide studies have shown this over and over. Eating, if you don't cook and your wife does. Ask her to start making healthier meals. There are certain foods that play directly into our Psyche. Certain foods create more depression and anxiety. Others actually help both of those and make us feel better. Start taking better care of yourself.
So to sum all this up, Don't allow yourself to be able to have much money. Quit the drink and pot, both make you tired out and they are costly. Spend more time with your wife in a loving way. Stop thinking about what you want and want to have. There's more to life and marriage than just you. Find a good Gym and or serious Hobbies you would enjoy. Especially with your wife. Take care of yourself mind and body. And stay busy.... quit sitting around drinking and getting high. And quit cheating on your wife. Yes, all easy, fine and dandy for me to say. I know..... and a lot of work on your part. But your the only one that can make these changes that you need. Keep us up on your progress. Come back often even if it's to complain or what have you. I'll hit your support tab.