How do you deal with someone who's not financially helping i

How do you deal with someone who's not financially helping in the relationship. But constantly putting more of they problems on you. Then they mom constantly makes it worst by saying I suppose be supportive/help. We only been together for a year, half was long distance, I understand hard times but the whole relationship.

Jordan5683's picture
Oct 13, 2021

Set boundaries with both the person and the mom. Maybe even give an ultimatum to the person about getting a job to help out.

Inmylittleroom's picture
Oct 13, 2021

Every time their mom says you are suppose to help him out, say she is the mom... she is suppose to him help out.
Had boyfriend's sister ask me why I don't help him out more. I was not prepared. I could have said I give him half my income, buy his food, buy the household supplies, pay for all the animal food and supplies, help pay for fuel, pay for part of the electricity, and miscellaneous.
Or I should have asked why doesn't she help him out.
The truth is it is not anyone else's business.

andine's picture
Oct 13, 2021

@Blueflower23: this does not sound like a relationship worth keeping. Sorry that you are being financially exploited which is a form of abuse. Local domestic abuse agency may provide free counseling for you. Do you have supportive friends and family if needed for help? groups like this are great for addressing codependency and enabling issues. Do not let people guilt trip you into believing that you are supposed to take care of them. xx


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