My mother was my abuser growing up. I did not have contact w

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My mother was my abuser growing up. I did not have contact with her for 22 years. A few years ago I found her. I tried to see if she was okay. I have seen her briefly 2 times. I do not have hard feelings to her. I even forgave her. She has a mental illness. She was really struggling that’s why she physically abuse me. She lives on the other side of the country. She has said some very triggering things to me. So I started not talking to her for a few months. I just reached out to her again last week. She told me she was having a hard time and let her house get out of control “messy”. By messy I mean living in garbage, and cat feces. I don’t know what to do. I feel so out of control. I do not want her living like that. It makes me want to cry. I don’t know what to do. I have had 2 very bad days on the verge of tears. I grew up in cat feces being all around the house. It brought back so many painful memories for me. I asked her for her social workers number. So I could call and get someone to help her. Which I do not know why her social worker is not already aware of this situation. I feel like such a bad daughter. She can NOT live with me. She is very unhealthy and still someone what verbally abusive to me. I really can not handle talking to her at all. But I can’t just let my own mother live in cat defecation. What should I do to ease my pain? What is even the right thing to think or feel in this situation?

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Sep 17

@Inmylittleroom good idea. :)

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ChunkyMonkey's picture
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Sep 17

@Littleturtle1000 yes. I understand. My mom does have friends. A social worker and therapist. For that I am thankful.

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ChunkyMonkey's picture
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Sep 17

@pam4him yes I am in therapy... it helps. I need to Remember that prayer. Thank you for reminding me. That’s helps! Thank you!

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