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I think my sister is triggering my BPD because I feel angry.

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I think my sister is triggering my BPD because I feel angry. I haven't felt angry in a long time. . I think she can't help herself. She gets anxiety and wants to lash out at me. And then I think I'm going crazy! Not good. I'm trying to rebuild a relationship with her and it's like I'm remembering why we always fought. Oh yeah.. This is why I stayed away from you. She triggers me! What to do? I love her and then i hate her. I can't deal with that.

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Apr 17

I have a really difficult relationship with my sister too. It is really hard to deal with having a problem with relationships and dealing with tough relationships at the same time. I have realized that I need to take a break from this relationship until I am healthier. I hope you find the right way to deal with this relationship for you and your health and for your sister.

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Apr 17

@ms56 I feel like I need a break too! I just want to move on. I had finally accepted the fact that my sister and I were not going to have a relationship and then my Mom dies suddenly. We came together because of that. I was glad we talked and spent the time together that we did. And now.. I can see that we just live very different lives. We are very different people. . A huge age gap as well!
If I don't make 95% of the effort.. It Doesn't work. I'm not willing to do that anymore. And it's because she's so predictable and I know the minute I don't do things her way .. She shuts down and gives me the silent treatment. .She did it already. .She thinks she is going to Boss me around. My much younger sister is not going to control me! . So when I make that clear. .She can't accept that and respect me. . So I will shut down too! I won't let her hurt me like she used to do. .I let her do it. . Never again!

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Apr 17

I feel for you. I know what that love/hate dynamic feels like. I had lots of problems with her growing up so I got to the point at times where I couldn’t be in the same room as her without feeling explosive rage.
I really hope you take the time that you need without guilt but I also hope you come back together when your ready because family isn’t replaceable and it sounds like she is a good person just with some real issues to work out.

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