I had a very destructive relationship with my, then, best fr

[95]

I had a very destructive relationship with my, then, best friend a few years back. My family took her in and she really broke me. I was “fine” during the time she lived with us but when I “broke up” with her and stopped talking to her I broke down. I got depressed and had terrible anxiety. Whenever I got a message from her or someone was talking about her I panicked. I couldn’t open her messages for hours and I cried constantly. Luckily I had my friends and family by my side and I slowly became better. I am just starting to feel like myself again, almost happy even. I hadn’t heard from her in a very long time and yesterday she messaged me again with a really long text, telling me how sorry she was and that she had finally realized what she had been doing during our friendship. I don’t know what I should answer. Should I tell her to get lost or should I be understanding? (She was very depressed during this time and I can understand why she was acting like she did) Should I even reply at all?

show more ⇓
Comment
 13
View 10 More Comments
[9615]
Dec 9

@jaczioo Ok. Know that forgiving someone does not mean what they did to u is ok,,because it isnt. U forgive someone for "urself", for urself to feel the release and freedom from that person. Not for them to be off the hook. They have to deal with themself for doing wrong against u.

Reply
[95]
Dec 10

@Farrah11 Okay thank you. Got any tips on how to let it go?

Reply
[9615]
Dec 10

@jaczioo The best way I know to let things go and put closure on, is to write letters to ur ex-friend that u DO NOT MAIL and never let anyone see but u. Write anything u want and need to. I have lots of letters that I've written that I do not mail. In my letters I see almost every emotion, the rage, the anger and the love and forgiveness. My letting go and my closure with people who have wronged me are finished. Although when I get lonely for the one man I have always loved and always will, I write to him. It gives me comfort. Whatever works huu.

Reply

Login or Register

You are visiting Support Groups as an anonymous user.

Please consider joining our community and gain access to additional features by

registering or logging into your account