So tired of being victim blamed for having controlling, over

So tired of being victim blamed for having controlling, overprotective, and abusive parents. People are always like, "You probably did something to make them that way and feel like they can't trust you," or "You probably still act like a kid so that's why your parents are still treating you like one," or "you probably shouldn't/can't do this or that because you're still a kid and your parents are still treating you like one too" etc like what?? They've been like this my whole life.