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How Have Your Basic Values And Perceptions Changed As A Resu

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How Have Your Basic Values And Perceptions Changed As A Result Of Your Narcissistic Relationship?... For Example:

1. Do You Place As Much Importance On Material Possessions As Prior To The Relationship?...

2. Do You Have A Different Perception Of What Is Important In Life?...

3. Other Examples?........

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Jul 10

@GirlKitty I can totally relate to your experience. I had lost just about all of my material possessions twice as a result of my ex-narc. I also realized that those things didn’t make me feel happy and fulfilled. You’re right in that material things are replaceable, but people are not. I also agree with how powerful is the sting of hurtful words. They leave scars deep in the soul that may be healed to an extent, but never forgotten. I’ve recently heard someone say that you may forget what someone says, but you never forget how they made you feel. Forgiveness is for yourself; it doesn’t mean forgetting or condoning what the abuser said. It’s letting go of the damaging negative emotions and toxicity in your life. Negativity will not allow peace in your life. As you mentioned, it has also increased my empathy, and consideration for other’s feelings........

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Jul 10

@bbccddee1234 I understand and agree that trust is a difficult thing to deal with after you’ve experienced abuse. I’ve found you need to find a balance or a middle ground. Extremes are unhealthy and usually have negative results. If you’re afraid to ever trust anyone again, you create fear, isolation, and loneliness for yourself. But trust is a precious gift that needs to be earned. You can’t just give it out randomly. This is why it is dangerous to rush too quickly into a relationship, or move in with someone after a short time. In getting to know the person, you can observe behaviors, and non-verbal cues that give insight into the person’s true character. By not acting impulsively and controlling your emotions, you can better safeguard yourself against love-bombing, and other manipulative tactics. It’s a different perspective now that you’re aware that narcissists exist and how they operate. A red flag does not automatically mean that the person is a high level narcissist. It is a warning sign to pay close attention, and proceed with caution. Above all trust your gut instincts; as the more you do, the more attuned to them you’ll become........

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Jul 10

@Ladyplumeria I’m very sorry about your family situation. Narcissists create such dysfunction in families. No parent who has the child’s best interests at heart would ever put them in a position where they have to choose between parents. They use children as pawns in a tug-of-war battle for control. It’s so unfair and so destructive; as well as causing long-term emotional damage to the child. But the narc only cares about his/herself, winning at all costs, and maintaining control. I’ve learned through my healing, that if you hold onto bitterness, anger, and resentment, the narc keeps emotional control long after the relationship has ended. Negative emotions create more negativity in your life. They prevent you from feeling good, experiencing joy and happiness, and finding peace. I’ve made a choice to not allow someone’s negativity affect my mood. So far it has worked, and I find I have much more control over my emotions. Hopefully you’ll eventually have your family back........

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