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The Following Is This Week's "Life Hack" From Team SG:
TOPIC: "MAKING MEANINGFUL CONNECTIONS IN LIFE”

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Jan 11

Writing this Life Hack is as much for you all as it is for me, I am really good at Social Interaction, I am a good listener, I like talking to people, but on the other hand I can go for long stretches of time feeling just fine without any social contact. I think that this is something a lot of us can relate to, one, because some of us may truly have anxiety, social anxiety, depression, agoraphobia, etc., while others of us are just more introverted in nature. Another reason for this is Social Media, it is so easy to fool ourselves into thinking that we interact with a whole slew of people, when really we like things on Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter…, it is a connection of sort, but not a meaningful connection.

“We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.” -Herman Melville

Why are meaningful connections so important? We see all the time on our site those who have grown to know one another and become true friends. People that they can call on when they need someone to tell them that things will be alright and to know when they say this, that they mean it. I have always been jealous of those I know who have friends from Elementary School that they still know and actually do things with! I moved around so much as a child and teenager, I don’t remember people’s last names so I can’t even look them up on Social Media. It would be amazing, I suppose, to have someone who knew me almost as much as I know myself. To not have to explain myself or my history, but I don’t and I would venture that a lot of you don’t either, so what can we do about that?

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” -Brené Brown

Ideally meaningful connection is done face to face, understandably most of us don’t have the time to have a whole lot of face to face time when we struggle just to have a family dinner, but right there is such an important connection. Even if this is take out and mentally you are calculating how many more years until you can ship these kids off to college or months until you can send them away to camp, make this a priority! Talk about things, pay attention, make the table or couch a no phone zone. If you don’t have kids, it is still important, we all eat, so make this a time where you sit with your spouse, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend or friend. Use it as a time to catch up, or if you don’t know someone, this is the time to ask a few co-workers to join you for a meal or a drink after work.

The people we work with, workout with, see in the pick up and drop off area at school, who do the same crafts, have the same hobbies are the people you don’t have to worry about having at least once connection with, if you are nervous to ask, keep in mind, they probably are too! If one on one is too much to begin with, that is okay, start slowly with a group, get to know people on the site or in other online groups, it is a great way to begin the process.

“We are like islands in the sea, separate on the surface but connected in the deep.”
-William James

With the people who are most important, family, friends, spouse, children...life gets so busy and it can be hard to connect over long distances, travel is expensive and finding time when you can take off work is hard, so schedule time to speak over Facetime or Skype, it is a good way to see the person, look in their eyes and pay attention. When we use the phone alone, we are probably doing several things at once and not paying total attention.

Loneliness and feeling quite unmoored is not a fun place to be, but for most of us, this is not a permanent problem, with a little effort friends can be made, when you listen and give back, these kindnesses are often returned. Family isn’t always there for you, but you can find those who will be. We are so glad you are all a part of our site and being here is a wonderful step in the right direction.

Wishing you all nothing but the best-

SG

References:

https://anxiety.supportgroups.com/

https://depression.supportgroups.com/

https://loneliness.supportgroups.com/

https://relationship.supportgroups.com/

https://social-anxiety.supportgroups.com/

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