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The Following Is This Week's "Life Hack" From Team SG:

Oct 12

Dear Members,

This month I decided to do a cleanse, a sort of healthy eating reboot, and, since I have mentioned a few dozens times my absolute love of chocolate, let me say, it has been HARD! Yeah, all the people that do this sort of crazy thing and tell you how AMAZING it was, they LIE. Here is the thing, I haven’t dealt with what I would define as “addiction” in the past, have I had mental health issues along the way, yes, but addiction no. This has really walloped me, because walking past the Halloween candy was really hard, like I wanted to dive into a bowl of chocolate and just be heavenly happy! I was kind of stunned because it gave me my first glimpse of how food and sugar can be addictive and how much of a whiny baby I am being and how hard it is to walk away from things that are harming us.

We tend to think of addiction in terms of how Hollywood portrays addiction to us, it is either Cool or Rock Bottom. There is no path from A-Z, sort of one or the other, but if you have ever loved an addict (Me!) or are an addict, you know that portrayal to be false. There are plenty of well functioning addicts, they regulate well, they keep up appearances and they do not look like those asking for change on the street at all. They are our friends, partners, parents, sisters, brothers, teachers, professors, business associates, Doctors, Nurses, etc.. Addictions are not limited to pharmaceuticals, but can be to food, internet, gaming, porn, fitness, self harm, plucking, picking…. Addiction is a part of most of our lives, I don’t care how religious you are, how well you were raised, how organic you eat, or how much or how little money you have, if you aren’t the addict, then you know one, it is really that simple.

“A lot of people think that addiction is a choice. A lot of people think it's a matter of will. That has not been my experience. I don't find it to have anything to do with strength.” Matthew Perry

Addiction isn’t a choice, it finds you, it usually starts harmless enough and then becomes a need and then often a hole that you cannot fill. It often blossoms from the desire to feel better about ourselves, we are drowning in a culture that puts photoshopped perfection on display for the masses to enjoy, we see “perfection” on TV and social media, we are told to work faster and harder, sleep less, workout more, eat healthy, be the perfect parents and children and spouses, we are placed on what seems like a treadmill that never pauses and we search for ways to reach a finish line that seems out of reach.

“Checking your ego, abandoning it, letting it go, is a huge part of recovery from addiction.” Susannah Grant

Healing isn’t easy, I don’t like the word cured or recovered, because that implies that addiction goes away. It can get better, but it is something that has to be monitored to make sure it doesn’t rear its ugly head and stick around again and again. It is like any medical crisis, constant monitoring is the only way to keep tabs on it.

So how do we deal with addictions in our life?

Addiction is first of all something that cannot be dealt with on your own. It strikes me as odd in a world where we have no qualms about hiring a babysitter, a pet walker, dropping our laundry off for someone else to do, go to a hair salon to have our hair cut and done for us, get our nails done, go for massages...that we worry about how we might be judged for talking to a doctor about what is going on with our mental health and/or if we are dealing with an addiction!

Reach out for help, a great resource is to call your insurance, talk to your primary care provider, or use resources such as https://www.addictions.com/, https://www.detox.com/, or city listings provided on sites such as https://therapists.psychologytoday.com.

“Life is a series of baby steps along the way and if you add up these tiny little steps you take toward your goal, whatever it is, whether it's giving up something, a terrible addiction or trying to work your way through an illness. When you total up those baby steps you'd be amazed over the course of 10 years, the strides you've taken.”
-Hoda Kotb

Recognize that how your life currently is set up has to change, addiction is built, it doesn’t just happen, therefore, your life has to change. If you are in an industry or job that pushes you towards your addiction, you most likely cannot remain if you want to heal. You can’t stay around those who are enablers. You need to set up a way to stay accountable, our site is a wonderful way to set goals and ask other members to hold you accountable, this is a huge step towards healing and working to acknowledge that you need others to help you reach your goals.

Remember, addiction recovery is a marathon and not a sprint, it takes a lot of effort to achieve a healthy balance. Just like running a marathon takes a lot of practice and assistance, so does healing, let others in, be honest about your goals and when you fall “off the wagon” be honest about that too, those who are supporting you can’t learn to trust you if you can’t be honest about your failures along with your victories.

Thank you as always for allowing us to be a part of your journey.

-Team SG

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