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My husband and I just had a huge fight. I know I've shared b

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My husband and I just had a huge fight. I know I've shared before that he can't manage money and I've helped him out in the past by cosigning for his current car (which he's paid on for a little over 2 years of a 6 year loan), cosigning for a few small personal loans, and in the past loaning him my own money before we were married. He has a car payment that's too high currently, and too many credit card bills, and is always short on money. A few weeks ago he talked about trading cars and I told him I was not comfortable with doing that and therefore would not be cosigning. He didn't bring it up again until today. Now he's basically insisting he's going to make it happen, that he's upside down in his current car, and whatever he has to do he's trading. I asked him to wait until it's closer to being paid off since it's a nice car and there's nothing wrong with it. I shouldn't expect him to be reasonable. He even tried to say he'd trade his car, and I could drive the new one and he'd drive mine to get me to agree. I again said no. We got into an ugly fight complete with yelling. He then threatened if I don't help him that he will stop making payments and since I'm on the loan too they'll look to me for them. I said my car would not be at his usage if he got his taken away due to no payments. He then said he can stop a lot of things (meaning our marriage without actually saying those words) and said he could find his own place to live, today if necessary. I said ok do it. He said he was serious, he'd go do it if I can't be understanding, and I said if this is how it's going to be, go ahead and do it then. I added that it was terrible of him to threaten divorce just because I don't want him getting into more payments he can't afford and that he needs to think this through. I feel like I"m going to have a panic attack. He stormed out. Don't know where he is or what's going on. At this point I'm about ready to pack up the cat and disappear and make him wonder where I am. Thanks for reading - sorry it got lengthy, but I needed to vent.

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Feb 13

You're most welcome. Sometimes we need a reminder of how strong and tough we truly are :)

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Feb 14

@ivanaguadalupe Thank you. Some days I feel like I could break into a million pieces so it's nice to have reminders like this. You're very kind.

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[5385]
Feb 14

Thank you. I do my best, and sometimes people take offense to my advice being more blunt and not as flowery as others put it. Thank you for your kind words.

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