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Hello everyone! So, after leaving that toxic relationship

IDerserveBetter's picture
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Hello everyone!

So, after leaving that toxic relationship with my narc ex and filing an Order of Protection against, he then went an got himself a lawyer and filed and a Visitation petition, because he is now saying he wants to see his kids, I followed up with a Petition for Custody. I faced him in a couple of times already for some conferences but he was still not allowed to see his kids and my Order of Protection still in place. On Dec 4th we were at court again, and while there my lawyer came back to me to tell he had filed for Petition for Custody and an order of Protection against me!!! I took the papers and I read through them, and basically, the abuser is trying to say I was the one abusing him!! Him and his lawyer wrote on petition every argument we've had with so many twisted lies to basically say I am an unfit mother, that I am a batter, that abused him, they made up so many lies all I can do was laugh about it, they even went through my social media and found photos of me, one of them which I took when my youngest son was a few months old, I was still nursing and my breast look big, but i find it a very beautiful and tasteful photo of me holding son and everyone loves it I am even considering framing it because it is so beautiful, anyways they made it seem as if I am sort of bad mother for showing a 'revealing' photo with my infant, they did this with many other photos, even quotes I had on my profile that were song lyrics, they printed everything out to incriminate me! He even manipulated a close friend of his to write a letter which in on the court papers about an incident that happened while she was staying with us and she lies in the letter about what really happened. But I was not surprised because I m ready for the worst with this person! It just incredible the number of lies a narc can fabricate to make sure they destroy you. This was all in the petition for custody and he did the same with the Summons for an order of protection against me, he made up lies over lies about me abusing him, stealing from him, all kinds lies I know how one person an come up with so many lies! He made sure the judge sees that I am the bad person not him. But if i show you his social media, with photos of him getting wasted at every show he plays, because plays heavy metal and abuses drugs has a really bad reputation. But I didn't do that to him, other than the drug abuse can affect the safety of my children, I didn't bash him my petitions as he did to me. So, I spoke to my lawyer and she told me he will have to prove all of that and that the counsels thought most of the stuff they put there was ridiculous, I mean they even found my full report of cars I've driven in past, of all my addresses, even email addresses I haven't used since I was 16 years old!! It's ridiculous.

The twist of all of this was since I have already stressed his drug abuse, they asked if he would a take a drug test right then and there. He denied he took drugs and that i was the one who did. He agreed to take one if I did too, and of course, I jumped right in because I knew my results were going o be negative. Before the test i could see his body language and his face he was so nervous and furious. And guess what? His test came back positive for Marijuana, he probably smoked right before stepping in the court and had no idea he could be tested. It was glorious. Visitations with the kids now will be supervised just as I requested. It was his birthday and he was furious he wanted to see the kids, he was going off my lawyer and on me, calling me a bad mother, I briefly talked to my lawyer and left because he kept saying things to me trying to get a rise out me but Ignore him and left. It was his bday so he got away with getting a phone call from me from the kids which he demanded it was on video and I said no it would be on the telephone only.
Its so incredibly crazy the manipulation and lies he is saying about me, and I'm just ready for him to bring out more stuff to try to destroy my reputation in and out fo the court.
Would love to hear your comments about this especially if you have or are going through something similar in court with a narc.

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IDerserveBetter's picture
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Dec 9

@daisy182 Thank you much very, Daisy! Good for you, it's annoying to keep dealing with this person but I do anything to make sure my kids are safe. I don't even look at him in the eyes when I face him at court. He tried to say mean things to me outside the courtroom but I've learned to just ignore him and not react to anything he says to me anymore so that he can point fingers at me. I know that ignoring him is killing him and he wants to see me react to his bs to say I am the crazy one, but that's not going to happen.

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Dec 9

@IDerserveBetter keep it up, you know it's killing him. Narcs hate to be ignored.

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AngelButterfly's picture
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Dec 9

Codependency sucks, I know.

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