I don't know why I stay with my wife. I caught her having an

I don't know why I stay with my wife. I caught her having an affair in January of 2019 and she continued it until his wife caught them in September of 2022. She has changed. She's getting help for her insecurities, depression and anxiety. But I don't know if I can forgive what she did or trust her again. We tried counseling and it worked out some of our issues. I'm trying to find a therapist that I feel comfortable with. It was a year ago and the heartache is still strong. For the first time in 28 years I don't know if she is the best person for me.

Kas1966's picture
Aug 2

It took me over 4 years to really feel like I was actually healing. I have read many times it usually takes 2-5 tears. One year is still very early imo to decide anything.


I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through, friend. I can't imagine how painful and devastating it must be for you. It's good you're getting help. Please know that I just said prayer for you and your wife, asking God to bring healing and hope to your marriage. I'd suggest that you check out the book: Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity by Gary and Mona Shriver. I know it's not easy right now but stay strong. Peace to you.


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