I don't know why I stay with my wife. I caught her having an

I don't know why I stay with my wife. I caught her having an affair in January of 2019 and she continued it until his wife caught them in September of 2022. She has changed. She's getting help for her insecurities, depression and anxiety. But I don't know if I can forgive what she did or trust her again. We tried counseling and it worked out some of our issues. I'm trying to find a therapist that I feel comfortable with. It was a year ago and the heartache is still strong. For the first time in 28 years I don't know if she is the best person for me.

Aug 4

I'm so sorry, man, I feel your pain. All I know about your situation is what I have read above, which is actually enough to give you the advice I think you need. What really strikes me is that you found out about this in January 2019... you must have been devasted at that time- surely it was apparent to her that you were a total wreck. Yet, she continued the affair for almost another 3 years, despite all of the pain it was causing you, and the only reason it stopped was because the other man's wife found out. It seems like you have been with your wife for a long time, and surely it's hard to let go. Nevertheless, something tells me that you know deep down that it is time to move on, as hard as that may be. Surely that must be scary if you have been with her for 28 years; however, when something shatters, its not always worth trying to pick up all the little pieces and glue it back together... sometimes it is better to just leave the pieces lying on the floor and move on. I have a gut feeling you won't do that, but I think you know you should. Please muster up the courage to move on, my man. Even though you don't believe it, better times await you.

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