So I've been recovering from a combination of anorexia and b
So I've been recovering from a combination of anorexia and bulimia for 3 years and though it hasn't been easy, it's never been as hard as it is right now. One of my best friends, who goes to the gym with me everyday and will soon be my roommate, is having a rough go of it, showing some unhealthy behaviors. From experience, I recognized the signs and I know that she needs help, that it's not just a phase. Stressing out about her and her health, wondering if today will be the day she collapses and has to go the hospital, is causing all my old bad thoughts, feelings, and fears to come back. I hate it. I want to be there for her, but I fear that she's going to drag me down with her. I'm at a loss...I don't know what to do anymore.
The only thing you can do is be open with her about your own experiences and ensure that she knows she can come to you if needed. But ultimately you have to put yourself first, if you are trying to recover and she is not ready to take that step you cannot force her and she can't use you as a means of support. Be positive, focus on your own recovery and be emotionally honest and open, if she wants help you will be in a much better position to provide it if you are already helping yourself xxx