HAVING DIFFICULTY GAINING SUPPORT FROM YOUR FAMILY OR OTHER

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HAVING DIFFICULTY GAINING SUPPORT FROM YOUR FAMILY OR OTHER SIGNIFICANT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE?
The following offers some tips that might help:
You have two obligations to your supporters in exchange for their help. You need to be assertive about your needs and not be timid about asking for help when you need it. They need to feel that you’re confident and determined. Here’s how to go about it:
BE CLEAR ABOUT YOUR INTENTIONS. Communicate and clarify. For example, tell your husband, “I am committed to my healthy lifestyle, so I need to clear the house of goldfish crackers right now. I don’t want that temptation in the house.”
SPEAK WITH POSITIVE AFFIRMATION. For example, tell your family, “We are eating vegetables every meal, because we are pursuing better health.” not “we are eating vegetables every meal so don’t argue with me.” Ask yourself “How would I respond if spoken to in that way?
LEAD WITH YOUR WISE MIND. Be patient and mindful of those around you, especially when making requests. Speak with your Wise Mind: “I know vegetables aren’t your favorite, but we are a healthy family and eating vegetables is part of that.”I’d like you to at least try them and decide if you hate them as much as you say you do.” Never speak with your Emotional Mind: “You’ll eat what’s on your plate and that’s that. I don’t care if you like them or not.”
ASSERT YOUR NEEDS. Be assertive when you need your voice to be heard in a group. “I’d like to order something but pizza for lunch. Who all is with me?”
STATE YOUR THOUGHTS CAREFULLY. Use “I Statements” and not “Blame Statements. “I’m really focused on my health right now, so I’m going to choose to stay in tonight.” not “She serves nothing but junk at her parties, I wouldn’t be caught dead there.”
BE FIRM ABOUT YOUR NEEDS. Do not apologize or demean yourself when making a request. Phases like “I hate to ask” or I’m such a pest, do you mind if …...” do not serve you because people may not take you seriously.
Excerpt from "Brain-Powered Weight Loss" By Eliza Kingsford.

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Jennipain's picture
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Sep 12

Thank you my friend xo

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