When you realize you lost someone important, then you had to

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When you realize you lost someone important, then you had to heal from that heartbreak, and figure out your future but you feel you can trust no one after all of the betrayal. It's hard. Yanno? Do any of you feel this way too?

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@Foundlove I think that is good that you realize that sure you can forgive and forget, but sometime you just have to remind yourself not to forget. I know that I could probably be more at peace maybe by forgetting my ex's abusive behavior towards me but I know that deep down I have to also force myself not to forget the way he treated me. More because I have to acknowledge the role that I played in allowing his abusive behavior to continue and to remain with him as long as I did. I certainly don't want to get into another abusive relationship and I know I am not ready for another relationship yet. I think part of it is knowing how to set boundaries and how to set limits instead of just being too easy going and accommodating .

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Jan 24

@decisionstomake That's why I always differentiate between forgiveness and reconciliation. just because one forgives doesn't mean they have to live with a person who lied, cheated, betrayed them or any other terrible behavior. It just means they don't want revenge and don't allow them to take up resentment in the person's heart is all.

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nicely put.

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