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Update Hello all okay so I have retained my attorney a

Lonley28's picture
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Update

Hello all okay so I have retained my attorney and she has filed the response to the petition . The STBX and I have been splitting up house stuff by texts furniture etc and that went well enough until we got to the subject of pets .. she wants the dog and 1 of the cats . We worked that out okay also eventually . All was going well until I asked her if I needed to destroy the mattress when I move back to the house ( I am buying her equity out as she intends to move back to her home state and has already been looking at houses there and has met with a realtor ) . Seemed an honest enough question to me since we have been separated 5 months an have filed papers .
Boy did she get pissed off ... " how dare you accuse me of that ...I trust that you have enough respect for me to not do that until this is Finalized and I wish that you had the same respect for me , I'm not that kind of woman "
Am I a bad guy if I enjoyed her getting pissed off just a little after all the **** she has put me thru ?
Why would she care what I do at this point /boggle ? I am not doing anything yet but I certainly don't need her ok at this point .

The lawyers are having there first meeting soon Ill update more when I know more .

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Foundlove's picture
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Sep 9

I don’t get it... why destroy mattress! I’m case she’s been w someone else? If I were you I would do it no matter what she says for your peace of mind. It doesn’t matter her response

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Lonley28's picture
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Sep 11

I probably will destroy it ... it was mostly trying to understand her and her comments .
She texted me a lot last night kept trying to get me to understand why she wanted the divorce as if she needed me to accept it to make her feel less guilty but none of it made any sense and she seems very irrational and mentally unstable , "rest assured it was not a decision I came to easily " as if that makes me feel fine about her destroying 28 years together . Her childhood abuse has damaged her and since all the people that hurt her are dead now she seems to be shifting all of that onto me . I have never layed a finger on her in 28 years , hell I never even yelled at her but still she has become convinced that I am the root of all her problems . This i hard for me to cope with as I have come to understand over the last few months that this is not me .. this is 95 percent her ... we may have argued but nothing crazy or hostile . I just wish I could understand her . I should probably stop responding to her texts and just let the lawyers do their jobs but it's so difficult , just when I feel like I'm okay she texts me and I find myself compromised emotionally ... my lawyer said once we had filed I should expect her to try to contact me often and she seems to be right , now that we are filed she is communicating more then the last 2 months ... im so confused .

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outoftheblue72's picture
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Sep 11

@Lonley28 it's like when my husband said to me "don't you think I cried over not having those feelings for you anymore??" WHAT??? I don't care if you cried....you were having sex with other women!! OMG unbelievable!

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