Newest Blog is out, Support is Necessary!!!
Make sure to click READ MORE to see the full article. -SG
https://www.supportgroups.com/blog/support-is-necessary or click BLOG on the GREEN menu bar

To expand on what happened yesterday after Aleigha (12) call

eddie1975's picture
[29545]

To expand on what happened yesterday after Aleigha (12) called me and asked for $3 I just have to laugh. She asked me for $3 but I was at work so she asked grandma (mom's mom) who told her "It's your dad's week with you so ask him for money." How a civilized adult says that to a child is beyond me. When I did get home Aleigha told me more of the story. I guess the situation was- grandma was sitting in her car and said all that to Aleigha but at some point did bring out a $2 bill and offered it to Aleigha. Aleigha said she didn't want to spend her $2 bill so grandma threw it out the window onto the ground, rolled her window up and drove off. Aleigha said "That was childish." I just said "Yea, I think so too."

My thoughts on all of this is: Since Aleigha stayed with me all last week when it was her mom's week with her the adults (and I use that term loosely) on that side of the family are mad, upset, agitated (choose your adjective) and are taking it out on Aleigha and the other children. Every time the kids speak their minds about this divorce they experience retaliation. I'm the only one who seems to see this. I've stopped trying to fight it. I just listen to the kids complain and try my best to explain how "adults" sometimes act and teach my children forgiveness. I told Aleigha that they are upset at her for choosing to stay with me and they are reacting emotionally. Hurt people hurt people, many times without even realizing it. All in all it just makes me look that much better and it makes that side of the family look petty. That's the predominant word my children all use to describe their mother and maternal grandparents. So this is why I have to laugh, although I am NOT happy about how my children are being treated.

Trinity (15) is still being treated like dirt because of her refusal to go near that side of the family. She doesn't even go over there after school anymore like the other kids do. Becca (16) has even cut down on the time she spends over there after school. When I stopped by after work yesterday to pick them up Allison (7) was the only one there. The girls have pretty much stopped going over there and somehow this is my fault?!?!

show more ⇓
Comment
 4
View 1 More Comment
[263720]
Oct 10

And eddie, it won't be long before those two girls are adults and will be driving between the two places on their own, like my grown daughters did. By then no one can tell them what to do.

Reply
eddie1975's picture
[29545]
Oct 10

@Scat I remember being regretful when my grandma died because I never went to visit her enough. Her house was boring. I'd go there every day now. :(

The way these people treat my kids they are going to lose them faster than normal. It's like the whole family is narcissistic. Which I think would be statistically impossible but something is definitely wrong with all of them.

Reply
[263720]
Oct 10

@eddie1975, oh to go back in time and do lunch with Grandma. : ) Statistically, I think you're right that they're all prolly disordered on her side. Apple don't fall far from the tree.

Reply

Login or Register

You are visiting Support Groups as an anonymous user.

Please consider joining our community and gain access to additional features by

registering or logging into your account