the year is almost over and it's been a roller coaster for m

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the year is almost over and it's been a roller coaster for me. on new years day she asked for a divorce. and over the next couple of months we just quietly let our marriage fade away into nothingness. we divided up our lives and moved away from what we had. i remember coming onto this site and looking for answers. i found a lot of sympathetic hearts. not much in the way of answers, but of course i truly didn't expect any sort of epiphany. since then my life has slowly moved on. i don't hear from her or see her unless we meet up for visitation hour. she plans on moving 5 hours away and taking our fur babies with her. nothing i can do about it since dogs are considered property in our state. for a long time i laid restless at night wondering ifi could do something to fix it all. but i finally understood that nothing could be done. that realization was painful and it hurt tremendously. i went through counseling for months to try to "fix" myself so i could get her back. then one day i realized i was better off without her. i went thru all the stages. denial, anger, sadness, etc. and finally i arrived at acceptance. and it took almos a whole year to get here; even with help from so many people. so for all of you going through it. just know that you will get here. i didn't think i would. honestly there were times i thought about suicide. but i'm glad i didn't do anything stupid. trust me guys and gals. you too will see the light at the end of the tunnel

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Nov 15

It took me about two years. It takes time, lots of it. I am sorry for the road you were forced to travel. I stopped looking for answers a long time ago. I do not think there are any to be had. I did my very best in my marriage. Clearly it was not what he appreciated. Then I felt I just needed an apology and acknowledgement from him. I didn't get that either. It doesn't matter any more. My life is so much better today than it ever was when I was with him. Many hugs to you, dakiwi.

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Nov 15

@Jenn4473 for a long time i also felt like i deserved an apology or at least an explanation as to why she just upped and ended it. never got it. never will. she's just that type of human being

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8 hours ago

I am going through this right now after being with her for almost 8 years. It hurts so bad and I feel like I’m stuck feeling like this forever with no escaping it. It is absolutely miserable and heart breaking.

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