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So, I finally agreed to meet him, i know this sounds dumb bu

So, I finally agreed to meet him, i know this sounds dumb but, i spend 2 hours getting ready , and then he text and told me he was tired, and we went back and forth for a minute then I told him i finally say yes, just so you can cancel on me i dont play games. He said he did not do that for that reason, i asked him
then tell me what was the reason?
"I was tired, and maybe nervous and not sure what we were going to accomplish" can someone please decipher for me, and now he is back to not talking to me. So again now i am feeling bad, because I got stood up and then cause i dont understand about the accomplish comment, i could look at it all different ways. I just feel bad. I get he was nervous so was i.

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[19470]
Nov 9

@tinytearz I don't know your whole story, but it doesn't sound like this is a healthy relationship. It's really difficult to let go when they go back and forth... Trying to figure out what they are up to or just messes with your emotions. If he wants a healthy relationship he wouldn't play these games. Try reading about codependent relationships... This may or may not relate to you, but it's good information either way. It may not be easy to walk away, but it isn't impossible.

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[1855]
Nov 9

I don't think it was i spent so much time trying to get him to love me to get him to stay I became angry and resentful and cold. he took advantage of my love for him over and over and i never knew if he really wanted to be there but that did not stop me from trying to make him stay. Hes left and now he is talking to me a little again, but it is different now, I dont call him, i dont text him first i dont make contact unless he does if he wants to fix it he has to be the one that does all the inital work he has to come after me, then we will both know, he will know that this was his choice and I will know that he wanted me. but in the meantime I told him what i wanted what i would accept and that i would not be waiting around. So we will see he already left me so there at this point is nothing left to lose, I am still trying to better myself, trying to be strong and just trying to not think of any future with him at this point. he has a lot of work to do, not sure he can. And it might sound wrong but right now its all on him. I did it all for way to long and I am done doing it. I wont say at some point if it came to it I wont meet him 1/2 way but for now its 100% on him. I dont know what healthy is but i am all for finding out.

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[19470]
Nov 9

@tinytearz I agree... It should be ALL on him. You have done enough. Keep talking care of yourself. Your doing good.

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