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REPOST (Used personal info in old post) Hello. I'm new here.

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REPOST (Used personal info in old post) Hello. I'm new here. I am 37 male and I have been married for almost 9 years. In February 2019 I discovered my wife was having an affair. She lied at first and said it was emotional, then I lied and said I had a file on my computer that I was going to open and gave her a chance to admit anything. She admitted that it was also physical. I got mad and broke things and acted badly for a few days but wanted to stay married. We both are Christians though this has brought me closer to my faith and I think it has pushed her away. We were off and on until about June then I felt like we were on our way to reconciliation. But She filed in April and then placed the divorce on pending status as we were doing counseling. I felt like things were going great until July 25th, my wife kissed me and said she loved me and took the kids bowling and never came back, she texted at 9:30 that night that she had to think, (we had a counseling appt at 4 that she didn't show to). The next day at 3:30 I was served a protection order for my wife and children. I had 20 minutes to pack and leave the residence and I worked from home. Now I have 3 days clothes and enough of the basic stuff I need for work, living at my parents house. I have let my career take a back seat and helped her with hers, she now makes considerably more than I do and I'm scared she will get the kids and I won't even have enough for a place for them to visit me. She received a large check 2 days after I was removed from the residence for the program that I helped her complete so she has plenty of money and a place to stay (our house)

I'm so scared, I want my wife but I also want to protect myself and my children. Has anyone personally had a marriage that came back from this?

My hearing for the protection order is 8/8. She alleges abuse saying that I forced her to have sex and pushed her down after but there never was any, the only truthful claims are that I punched a hole in a door about 4 years ago and I grabbed her by the shoulders but she says that I choked her during that incident. I think she is either still having the affair or is suffering from mental illness.

She recently had a hysterectomy (still has ovaries), her Father and grand father died at the end of 2017, and we both had stressful health conditions and had young children.

This is a rambling mess, sorry.

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newlifechad's picture
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Aug 15

Did the lies come out? I've been honest in all my statements and documents and I'm hoping that shows.

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Aug 15

@newlifechad hate to tell you this but the lies are already out !!!! you try to play the nice guy you are going to lose !!
i asked you a couple weeks ago if you had been served any other papers and it turns out that she had filed documents that you had no knowledge about ! do you think that she is all of a sudden is going to start playing nice ? you have to start to play on the same level . sorry for being a little harsh but if you dont start to get a handle on what is coming cause it is only going to get a lot worse you wont believe how fast the system will roll over you !!

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newlifechad's picture
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Aug 15

@lostsngdad I just meant, did the lies come to light. I'm not going to lie. I'm following my lawyer's advice but I wouldn't compromise myself like she is doing. Paperwork was filed today to dismiss the restraining order and reinstate me back in the home as the primary caregiver to my children. Hopefully it works, she can be as evil as she wants and I will fight back appropriately.

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