Oh wow. Things are better and things are worse. I lost my

eddie1975's picture
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Oh wow. Things are better and things are worse.

I lost my job the first week of October because my company closed the location. I couldn't move to Virginia where they offered to move me because I wasn't sure what would happen with my children. I filed incorrigible on my 17 and 14-year-old's back in May and they got super mad. The 17-year-old told me she would just find somewhere else to live and did just that. She cried to her attorney and the judge, telling them that I put too much pressure on her (go to school, achieve a 3.0, do chores, be in the house before dark and stop doing drugs) and the judge ordered her to live with her friend for now, completely undermining my parental authority. She is supposed to graduate this year but she's failed twice because she skips school and fails almost all of her classes. She's doing better right now (2.71 but still skips 25% of school.) Likely, will still barely pass and end up being an 11th grader at age 18. My 14-year-old went to another county and beat up some girl, recorded it and posted on social media. That got her charged with three counts of battery and one count of conspiracy so the judge in that county put her in placement, where we found out she is pregnant. SMH

On top of that my ex is still dealing with her DUI she got in May. I got custody of all the kids because of that and right now my 9-year-old lives with me. I told my ex I got a job about two hours away and she had a fit, saying that I can't take our daughter away from her and that she was going to tell the court. I texted my attorney and he said there isn't anything she can do. Yesterday my son, who will be 21 Saturday, came over to watch basketball and told me his mom is driving him crazy. He is in from college and staying with her this week. He said she came into his room Monday night at 11:30pm crying and saying I was taking his sister away from her. He told her that when she filed for divorce she knew the consequences. She said "Your dad and I agreed it was for the best," to which he replied "That's not true because dad didn't want to get a divorce." Then he said she started talking bad about me so he asked her why she's nice to my face and talks bad about me behind my back. She said "He does the same thing," and my son said "Oh no, he absolutely does not." He said he just let her talk for a while and she finally left and 10 minutes later his phone rang and she was calling him. He answered and she started crying again and he said he just kept listening and let out a cough. She said "Who was that? Is your dad listening? Are you at your dad's?" He said "What are you talking about? You were just in my room a few minutes ago." He said he is sure she was drunk.

I just can't wait until December 13 when I'm out of this place for good. And btw, I'll be married this time next year to a woman that I think is totally amazing. I never in a million years thought I would be able to love again. I thought I was broken.

Update: My 14-year-old just called me for the first time in months. She seems to be remorseful for what she's done and more mature but I still think she needs to stay in placement for a while. I still have a CPS case opened against me because she told them I stuck my hands down her pants and fondled her (which I would NEVER do,) so I'm very reluctant to let her come back home. Maybe in a few months. She said she is going to name her baby boy Kingston.

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eddie1975's picture
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17 hours ago

@KidDJ Thanks. I think God has me on the right path now.

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eddie1975's picture
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17 hours ago

@CKBlossom I've read countless times that what happened to me will only make me stronger. I hope that is correct.

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rikk's picture
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5 hours ago

@eddie1975 wow you been going through it your tough and grounded you will see this through. I’m sorry that you have to deal with this with all that’s happening some how maybe a change is needed if possible?

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