My apologies for being away so long. I don't even remember

My apologies for being away so long. I don't even remember where I left off. My life took a turn for the crazy. I really thought that since I had left my very mentally ill and abusive husband behind, life would be calm. I was wrong.

I bought a house. This is something that people do every day and should be no big deal. I took a shower in the new home and the walls started to bleed blood. I can't tell you how freaked out that made me. Then I noticed a bullet hole in the wall. Then blood started to appear everywhere in the bathroom. It was like a horror movie.

The neighbor told me that the prior owner had committed suicide in this house. The heir did not remediate properly and the humidity makes the blood soak through. I have been told I need to rip out the drywall. I will be ripping out everything in the bathroom down to the studs.

I have been shopping for a new vanity, commode, mirror, lights, shower kit, floor tiles and back splash. With all the supply chain shortages going on, this hasn't been easy.

Today the man I hired to do the work stopped by to see the bathroom. He told me he will "take care of me". That just sounded a little too ominous!

show more
View 19 More Comments
eddie1975's picture
Nov 25

I'm not sure if it ever calms down. My life is still pretty crazy too. We just have to keep looking forward.

Nov 25

@beth65, the dog was 13. She was very ill. Nonetheless, it is still upsetting, It is just one more thing to add to a year filled with loses.

I am about 3 years ahead of you! I got an insurance license and I work in an insurance agency. Mostly now the customer service jobs have morphed into sales jobs doing customer service on the side. A lot of the insurance jobs are in call centers too, which means you can work remotely.

I'm extremely impressed that you are able to do cartwheels.

A neighbor came over today with a plate full of turkey, ham, mashed potatoes, gravy, and I think, green bean casserole. She also brought pumpkin pie. I was very touched and didn't have the heart to tell her that I am vegetarian and won't eat any of it. I hope she never finds out.

She asked me what work I was doing on the house and I told her that I am tearing out and replacing the bathroom because the prior owner had committed suicide in that room. She told me that she knows for a fact that he wrapped himself in a tarp and shot himself outside in the backyard. She heard the gunshot and she saw his body. I showed her the pictures of all the blood in the bathroom and the bullet hole, and showed her where the bullet lodged in the ceiling of the master bedroom. I figure he must not have been successful on first attempt. Maybe that is why he wrapped himself in a tarp I can't imagine how he made it outside based upon what I was seeing in the bathroom. At any rate, I am more and more freaked out by this, and I feel so badly knowing his death was painful and not quick.

What did you wind up doing today? I hope it was an easy day for you.

show more
Nov 25

@eddie1975, I am impressed that you are able to look forward and how well you handle all of the issues between ex and children. How is the job search coming along?


Where do calls go?

Calls to numbers on a specific treatment center listing will be routed to that treatment center. Additional calls will also be forwarded and returned by one of our treatment partners below.

Calls to any general helpline (non-facility specific 1-8XX numbers) for your visit will be answered by one of our treatment partners, a paid advertiser on

  • ARK Behavioral Health

All calls are private and confidential.

Login or Register

You are visiting Support Groups as an anonymous user.

Please consider joining our community and gain access to additional features by

registering or logging into your account