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I'm sure I already know the answer to this, but hoping to ge

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I'm sure I already know the answer to this, but hoping to get some insight from others and it will open up new thought patterns for me. My ex-wife cheated on me, no contact for 2 months now since the divorce, and I'm still having days where I struggle to let go of the anger. How is it that she is able to be so cruel, selfish, manipulative, add any similar adjective, not seek help or guidance from others, continues to live her best life, yet I'm the one who's in therapy on a weekly basis, still think about her nearly every day, not in the sense that I want her back not at all, but she's on my mind constantly. I know i'm the one who was wronged, but what strength does she have that I don't? How is she able to act like nothing happened and deal with it all on her own? How does she sleep at night knowing what she did? I have an army of support behind me and I still feel like I'm all alone.

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Nov 21

@TR06 I said the same thing, why can't i just fast forward to the point where i'm in a good place. What i can tell you is that although i'll never, ever like how everything went down between my ex and I, there is so much that i've learned from it all. But one thing i refuse to do is i'm not going to apology for reacting poorly to the constant lying, the cheating, the manipulating..yes I reacted terribly when someone treated me that way, but who wouldn't? I've always prided myself on having strong willpower, and the ability to let things just roll off and not let people get under my skin, but everyone has their breaking point and she found it and repeatedly kept breaking me over and over. So it is just a phase, it will be over at some point, but try to focus on what you can learn from this experience because ultimately the goal is to grow from all of this and become an even better person, one who is more aware of the people you're surrounding yourself with in life.

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Nov 21

@Morningview I'm exactly where you are just full of anger and how they can cheat on you and not care about your feelings I feel like I will never get past this I know I will but right now doesn't seem that way and it's been going on for years the anger the resentment of all the years that I wasted on someone who I thought loved me who apparently didn't

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Nov 21

@Vb1977 I know, it's tough. I have good days and bad days. I have to constantly remind myself that i just put my faith and trust in the wrong person, that she is not a good person and she may have taken five years of my life but I do not want her taking up any more of my time. And if it wasn't me who she betrayed it would've been some other guy, so i also tell myself that it isn't personal, it has nothing to do with me but everything to do with her. I'm grateful to have found out so early on, before i invested any more time and energy into someone who was never fully committed, i just wish it would've been a conversation instead of lies and cheating.

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