I don't know what to do. I got divorced almost 2 years ago.
I don't know what to do. I got divorced almost 2 years ago. I left him because he was verbally and emotionally abusive toward me, and no matter what I said to him, he wouldn't change his behavior. So I moved to a different city to get away from him, and he stayed in the same town. My family still treats him like he's family and nothing has changed. I got into a fight with my parents about this and my mother told me that he is a friend of the family and he will always be a friend of the family. Also, this hatred that I have toward him is causing a lot of drama and that I need to stop it and just get over it.
@sadone27 I totally agree with you, and I have been working on it. It's definitely slow going due to all that he did to hurt me and bring me down, but my dad reminded me of something. He told me that he has never heard me bad mouth my ex in front of anyone, and that to him that shows that I'm moving forward with my life. Unlike my ex who I guess still makes fun of me and belittles me in front of anyone who'll listen.
Hey SusieQ, that is terrible. I don't know what I would have done if my family insisted he was a friend of the family. My family did support me. I know if my children ever divorced their spouses, I WOULD NOT be friends with the exs. That's just so unfaithful.
It's hard when you can't totally get away to heal. You made a step in the right direction by getting some space in a new town. Now just make sure you have a support system in place - healthy friends, counselor, support groups, church groups. I recommend a couple of a good books by Henry Cloud - Boundaries and Safe People. It's even harder when the unsafe people are your family but the books help you navigate those relationships in a way that's healthier for all of you. Praying you find strength and healing...