I am totally devastated. My wife of 20 years informed me she

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I am totally devastated. My wife of 20 years informed me she been having an affair and has checked out the marriage for at least 1.5 years. I had no clue. Everything was normal in the living room and bed room. She has very little contact with kids bc she moved into an apartment. She shows no emotion that this hard for her. I am having such a difficult time as I work at the same location as the third party. I am in the house and take care of my teenage boys. My boys are devastated and of course don't understand. We have been separated for 2 months. My emotions just keep circling between sobbing alone to brief times of hope.

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Sep 13

Yesterday was clear I am the only one that wants to try to work it out. She just looked at me with stone face as I cried like a baby about missing etc. I told her I don't understand why I am so sad instead of angry. I wish I could get angry it would be easier. To answer your question yes she still see the other person and has no intention of stopping.

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Sep 13

@kjh , fortunately you are in the beginning stages of healing. Denial, depression and sadness, anger then acceptance and hopefully happiness. This is the normal grieving process. I wish you well

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Sep 13

Just keeps getting worse. My youngest is 15 and has been counseling since divorce. He has been throwing up every day and having panic attacks. Pediatric doc says he severaly depressed. Soon to be ex wife could care less.

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