I am new here. Almost divorced, separated for almost two yea

I am new here. Almost divorced, separated for almost two years. Our daughter was 2 when we split, and from what I can tell, doesn't remember is living together as a family. We share her 50/50 and she has just started with separation anxiety from her dad on Christmas eve (a split day) to be exact. I initiated the divorce and feel at fault. Like maybe I didn't try enough, should have stayed and worked things out more. I believe this is because the guilt I am feeling as I do not love her dad in that way. It was a nasty separation, as I found someone else and to boot-it was a friend of my husbands. I don't pretend that I've done everything right, in fact I've made a lot of mistakes. I feel an overwhelming sense of anxiety and fear because I know she will miss her dad, and most days I am overcome by sadness. I've been dealing with Depression for about 5 years now and this situation really has me very low. I know my daughter can tell so I am the strongest I can be on days she is here ( we have a 2-2-3 schedule), on the days I don't have her I just have overwhelming guilt and I cry. I am desperately looking for someone in this situation because I feel completely alone.

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Jan 15

@lostsngdad sorry but I don’t understand why you said that? We have a schedule we agree on and are willing to change it is necessary. I want to do what’s best for my daughter. This has nothing to do with court.

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Jan 15

@Leahzan that’s a great place! That’s how we decided on the 2-2-3 when she was 2. This May she will be 4 so maybe we should look again. Thank you!

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Jan 15

@Arv51520 I had a agreement in place as well , we had talked about everything , custody , occasions , extended family functions , and so on and so on , once the ex got her payout she left and didn't look back , she has had virtually no contact with our daughter in the last five years and every so often she hauls me back to court for no other reason other than to appear that she is concerned , this has been a challenge for my daughter .
When i had mentioned the 2 - 2 -3 schedule i did realize that your daughter was two at the time that you made the custody agreement and i guess all i was trying to point out is that you have fourteen years of least of co parenting to deal with and it dose not get any easier .

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