I am hurt beyond words. I feel so lost, down, afraid and I f

I am hurt beyond words. I feel so lost, down, afraid and I feel defeated. No one will understand unless they have been where I'm at now. I just found out my ex husband has a baby on the way by the other woman. Why have life torn me apart like this. Why couldn't God help me to get over him first or bring me to a place where this wouldn't hurt so much. I am crying my eyes out at work. I don't feel well at all. He wasn't a good husband or dad but he was my husband and my kids dad. He has become so cold and disrespectful towards me. I have lost myself again. I feel so bad my feelings are so hurt. What did I do to deserve to feel like this. I just want to lay down & not move. Please please pray for me. I am so tired of myself.

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(52200)
Oct 12

@Lifehurts2018 I am exactly the same way. I have a hard time with change and I don't do it well. My ex narc use to tell me "You have such a big heart." It still wasn't enough. But I don't see that as a bad thing. It just mans that we are more loving caring people, but it does mean that we have to learn to protect our selves. We have to learn to recognize red flags early on in not only romantic relationships, but in all of our relationships. Having a strong boundary system helps and sticking to it. There are good things to be taken out of most situations even if you don't realize it up front. For me I learned what a huge capacity I have to love. I don't see that as a bad thing. But I do see it as a reason to find the right, deserving person for me to be with. You are a young person (compared to me). You have time to recover, learn something about yourself, and move on to a much happier life.

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(11045)
Oct 12

@mmadlecl wow my ex always would say I am the best thing that ever happened to him and that I have a good heart. Yes we're the same when it comes to caring. That's a big lesson that I have learned in this situation recognizing red flags early and protecting myself. Your advice is really helpful thank you. Thank you for taking the time out to comment. I will learn how to recovery, I am beyond read y.

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(11045)
Oct 12

@mmadlecl the way I felt was so low and I don't want to feel that way ever again. I will push myself to learn new things about myself and to just get busy in my life doing new things.

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