Hi Everyone, I'm new to this forum and just needed to v

Hi Everyone,

I'm new to this forum and just needed to vent a bit (my apologies, but I live alone, am currently in quarantine/lockdown, and honestly have no one else to talk to right now).

I am going through a divorce with my ex-wife (we were married for 7 years, dated for 3 years before marriage), and am feeling all the feels right now. In the back of my mind, I know that all will eventually be well, I will be happy again, I will love again, etc. But I just feel a little bummed at the moment, because I just had a Zoom call with my ex, and it seems as if that will be the last time I ever speak with her again (excluding anything related to legal divorce proceedings).

I am the one who initiated the divorce. I know that it is for the best, and I have to constantly remind myself that I am getting divorced for a better life; yet at the same time, I still feel bummed right now and question if I made the right decision.

On top of that, I am job searching, and may be relocating to a small town (that I don't really want to move to) for a new job (that I do want). I want the job, but I'm worried that living in a small town will make it difficult for me to meet new people.

Anyway, I honestly have no idea who I can talk to right now - so I turned to the internet. I'm not feeling hopeless (I know there are better days ahead), but I also know that I cannot bottle up my feelings and just suck it up, because I may suffer from emotional scars/consequences down the road ... so I felt the need to vent.

I'm thankful that online support groups exist, because honestly - life can feel a little lonely sometimes.

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Jan 19

I'm glad you reached out on here. It can be lonely for sure after we go through a divorce. It's been a couple of years for me and I've felt lonely at times as well. Things do get better for sure :) There is also a good free meetup group you could join. Many people share their stories on there and they talk about coping with loneliness. Just thought I would mention that in case you are interested in joining a group. They meet on Zoom. The link is https://www.meetup.com/divorce-support-online-group/

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Jan 20

@psychology Wow, this is amazing!  I will check out the Zoom meetup group.  Thank you for sharing!

Also, thank you for sharing a bit about your journey.  It's encouraging to hear that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and things will eventually get better. Even if there will be moments of feeling lonely over the next couple of years, we are not alone. 

I suppose I also have to keep reminding myself that: just like a tunnel, the only way out is through.  So I just have to keep going and holding onto my faith that brighter days are ahead. 

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Jan 21

@Ricky254 Awesome! I hope you get to try out the group to see if it helps. I love your positive attitude :) It's so true about having to get through the tunnel to get to the light at the end. Just remember that you are resilient and can get through tough things. You will get through this and find that new chapter in your life.

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