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Hello all. After 20 years together my husband told me he was

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Hello all. After 20 years together my husband told me he wasn't in love with me anymore and moved out. I didn't see it coming at all. We have kids but all grown. Our youngest is 18. Over the past 10 years I was diagnosed with multiple autoimmune diseases. really been having a struggle with it. I love my husband more than life. I sure dont want this. I have no choice. He wants to be friends. We still hang out and do things together. my friends and family all think hes having a breakdown or midlife crisis.

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Aug 13

So sorry you're going through this. Love isn't just a feeling, it's also a choice. We choose to love our spouse regardless of their flaws and personalities. I hope you'll find a good counselor to help you work through what's occurred, and heal from what's occurred. Take it one day at a time.

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Aug 14

I'm so sorry, same story here and still working through 18months later. four kids and 25 year marriage. This is so hard. This forum and group of angels are life savings. Just reading others journeys and ups and downs helps me deal with my own. I've only posted a little bit here and there... I'm emotionally exhausted...but there is a sense of peace when I'm done reading thru some of the other folks on here. I'm not alone...YOU are not alone. We get thru by sharing and it's a wonderful thing.

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Aug 15

I know this must be very difficult for you. But I wouldn't give up. I imagine that it would be difficult. To me it is very hopeful that he wants to stay friends and you did not mention the "D" word. My MIL took care of her husband for 15 years. It made her emotionally distant and drained. She had no energy for her grandchildren and now they have no time for her. Perhaps your husband is feeling emotionaly distant and drained and is mistaking that for lack of love. Does he take time to care for himself? Maybe there are support groups in your area for caregivers. Is he willing to go to couple's therapy? Perhaps that will help.

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