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Annoyed? Agitated? Angry? No not angry. Definitely not angry

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Annoyed? Agitated? Angry? No not angry. Definitely not angry because this is almost too comical for that. Upset? Maybe. Probably.

Yesterday my older sister calls me and says my x called her a couple days ago, wished her a happy birthday, and asked if I came to visit her over the weekend. She told her no and my x said "Well I heard he took the girls up there." My sister said not that she knew of. I took the girls swimming in the same town my sister lives in but we didn't have time to stop by. Anyway---- why is she asking my family about what I'm doing? It's beyond annoying.

Then she tells my sister she misses her and loves her. My sister reciprocated then my x asks if she can bring the girls to visit sometime. My sister said that would be fine but then my x hits her with "Do you care if I bring my boyfriend?" My sister told her that would make her very uncomfortable. She told me she can't stop my x from toting this guy around but she certainly won't allow him to sleep at her house.

So again, why my family? Why on the earth is she bothering my sister? My sister said she felt like my x was just trying to get information and once she got what she wanted she stopped texting to her. No "Okay, let's make some plans" or anything. She just quit texting her after getting what little bit of information she did. My sister said "Does she think I'm stupid?" I said "She must think everyone is stupid." I told my sister she was probably served with papers where I want full custody of all the kids and she is likely upset.

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eddie1975's picture
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19 hours ago

@Foundlove You bet your life I've told her I don't want this guy around our kids. She thinks I'm being a d!ck by suggesting that and she swears that she didn't cheat and only decided to date this guy after the divorce. It's a long story but she's basically fooling herself. She cheated. She took the kids on a weekend trip to Kings Island a month after the divorce and this guy spent the night with them. She was nice enough to get the kids their own room (more sarcasm.) Our kids who are fourteen or older have the choice of who they want to live with and all four choose me. I guarantee when the two youngest reach fourteen they will also come live with me. It's just a matter of time but it's time I hate.

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4 hours ago

There is no doubt your ex is prolly a narc eddie, her entitlement, trying to use your other family like flying monkeys for info and goods on you, her wanting to make nice nice with your sister. This is an entitlement thing that narcs always do. My sister does this stuff all the time and my STBX's mother and ex both do this too. For example, my sister would talk to my ex when we were estranged, and all she did was make more problems for me while he was stalking me. It's called being a busy body. Even the Bible forbids this behavior. Yet it's what narcs do. My ex and I were divorced like 27 years now, and even as recent as a few years back my sister went to my ex father in law's funeral. Why? Because she's a narc. She also had dialogue with my brother's ex and made problems for him although she knew his ex was stalking by brother. But there my sister was, giving his ex info on him. He finally stopped contact with my sister because of it. The same thing happened to my husband with his mother. His mother, who is a full blown narc (NPD) always made friends with her son's exes, just to but them. So she made good friends with my husband's ex wife just because she knew it bothered me. It's what narcs do and it's what your ex is doing now, making nice with relatives she knows she has no business contacting just to bug you. The wanting to bring her side piece to your sister's with her adds a whole new dimension to her unmitigated gall of contacting your family. I'll tell you why she did that. Because she had no intention of visiting your sister. She called your sister for the reason you supposed, to find out info on you. She only said the stuff about bringing her side piece to visit because she knew your sister would object, and she wouldn't have to visit your sister at all.

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2 hours ago

@Scat My sister said she felt like it was only for information and she hasn't talked to her since or made actual plans to go visit. Reminds me of a couple months ago when my eleven year old said she was going to start taking them to church on her weeks. Hasn't happened. You have to be careful when you decide to give in to sin because it will start to consume you. My sister also said she wants to be your friend because of her guilt. She want's to make sure I'm going to be okay.

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