2 trips to the apartment today, took most of my stuff out of

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2 trips to the apartment today, took most of my stuff out of the garage. It was a rough morning at the tball game. Just awkward, she helps the coach and that’s her whole social thing, she’s talking to everyone, busy with the kids and I’m just standing there, alone.

I know everyone’s different but I don’t like being alone in social settings like that, I feel like she has all her compatriots supporting her and I’m just a bad guy in the way being entirely ignored. I don’t even feel like my son knows I’m there, he’s 4 and mostly clueless to his surroundings. Last week there were so many less people and he could see me but this week was like a huuuuge crowd everywhere.

I feel like it’s a constant second by second reminder of the destruction she caused and she’s completely happy about it.

I struggle with telling her on the way out what a truly horrible disgusting human being she is, how she willingly chose her own selfish social life over her family, how doing good deeds to make herself feel good while the family suffered was not as “kind” as she convinced herself it was. How she is awful for getting a job to enrich herself and never supported the household going on a year now.

I’ve been on a few dates and honestly it sucks out there. I’ve found one friend who I talk to but haven’t dated yet. She is patiently waiting until I’m out on my own. The other ones were crazy, I had one last night and she was lonely and looking for a relationship. So I go in with a positive attitude and to keep it clean on this forum “fun sweet mama” was a complete 1000% freak. I mean omg, no. Where are the regular women?

As I type this my sister in law who I’ve known for 18 years and was like a sister to me is telling my oldest on FaceTime, after he tells her how he’s not happy about living in 2 new places that it will be better and less stressful and things will be better this way. I mean how can I not hate her? Where is the support for me? I’ve literally done nothing and I’m being treated like Deadbeat abusing drunk who just needs to go. I will never be speaking to these people again, I don’t think they understand that. I will never allow them to speak to my children while in my custody, I will hold seperate functions so I will not be around them ever again for the rest of my life. I will not attend any milestones she holds for the kids because I will hold my own separately.

This is not a temporary feeling, I have been completely and utterly betrayed by a family that was my family. Not one member has reached out to me and they think this will somehow “get better” after this destruction is complete? A destruction they are encouraging over literally nothing? It’s so sad and strange and causes me traumatic dreams pretty regularly, horrible sleep regularly and all because I decided to endure a career I’m not fond of to support my family and provide my stbx every single thing she wanted up to including staying home, until she didn’t. Then this happened.

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Mick77's picture
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Aug 31

@beth65 Absolutely nothing lol. But I can’t even repeat what she was all about here, I’ve never in my life met someone so extreme.

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Mick77's picture
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Aug 31

@beth65 they did for 18 years but I guess they were being dishonest about it all.

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beth65's picture
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Sep 1

@Mick77 no telling what your wife has been saying. I totally
believe you on the date thing.

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