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sorry so long but I gotta vent I am so mad at myself for

sorry so long but I gotta vent

I am so mad at myself for letting my ex suck me back into his drama. For like a month he’s been saying he wants to sell my car.

I needed a new car, but I knew if I sold mine I would not be able to get credit for another, and need him to help with financing, and then him selling it would start a problem too.

But I figured the person would not really buy the car, so if they did good, if not no loss.

The ex was acting nuts before taking the car, he came to a place to get the car, and then did not take it, then called to see when I would be home. Then when I got home he took the car.

At first he did not want to leave me his car, but I am a crazy busy person, I NEED a car. But while he was gone I looked for other cars I could afford, ect just in case.

When he called me to tell me the guy wanted my car, I was shocked, but we sold it for 4k. And I paid a guy $200 to fix some issues the car needed fixed, for the guy who bought it. My ex had told me I owed $2500 on the car still, so I was OK with paying off the loan and then using the rest as a down payment.

This is where the BS started. When I got there, I already knew a car I wanted to get. I already called to test drive it, and I needed to go to see it. That day, as Sunday I do not shop, and I needed to drive people to church.

So I get there and the guy only has 2000. OK no biggie, I was shocked he could get that much from the ATM. The car is registered in my name, and the loan was under my husband, but the insurance was going to be canceled once I got the new car. That way the guy can drive the car, till we get the loan paid off.

My ex then says he is not going to drive me to an hour away to get the car. Um Yes; you are. The whole time we were driving to see the car I 100% wanted and planned to buy he was complaining. Mind you he had agreed to all of this before selling my car.

We got there and then the place was rude, and I did not want to buy a car there, I told him to take me to another dealer around the corner I really like, and who I knew would have something I would like.

He pitched a fit, and told me I was stupid, and that I did not know how to buy cars; ect. But I got there, and told the guy what I was looking for, and we walked out to look at the general area of cars that the sales person thought I would like. The whole time he was be a PITA. Then the guy was walking me to another car, and we passed a car that was perfect. A little bigger than I wanted, but the brand was one I really wanted, and the gas miles was good, and the price was WAY lower than it should be for a practically new car.

We test drove it, and I asked to hold it while we looked at others. The whole time he was yelling that I should buy it, so he could go home. We looked at a few others, and all the similar cars like the one I held sold while we test drove some more.. I was not totally convinced in the car I held, but It was a great deal and I liked it a LOT.

There was non-stop mouth from the ex the whole time for the paperwork, and he was giving wrong address to people, and making it take soooo much longer than it needed to.

But eventually we got everything done, and then when they were showing me features like how to lock the doors, use the radio (which is a computer that runs the whole freaking car) he was complaining. He kept calling to complain the whole way home, and he came to my house!

And then tried to stay the night!! HELLLLLLLLL NO! So the next day he was supposed to get the rest of the money from the guy. But his bank said he had to wait till Monday to get the rest out, because it was too much from an ATM. I totally get that. Not a problem. My Ex was mad cause I did not let him stay at my place, and he came up, unannounced to argue with me.

He called the bank and was arguing with me that I had to pay off the loan RIGHT then. I told him It could wait till Monday morning, as it was Sunday evening, but he would not stop yelling. So he called to find out what was owed. And it was only $1000!!! So he tried to scam me out of $1500 when he kept yelling at me to give him $2500 to pay them off!!!

So I told him to GTFO of my home, and I would go to the bank first thing Monday to get cash to take to the other bank. He kept calling and texting me that I needed to be at his bank 7am with the cash. UM no, neither opened till 9 and he would see me when I got there. And we should refinance at the same time.

He was later than me getting to the bank, and was arguing with me when he got there he would not refinance until Saturday, and that I needed to clear my schedule for him.

We get the loan paid off and the letter for the DMV. And he went that night to get the rest of the money from his friend. When he comes to give me the money, he shorted the cash $500!!! He had it, it thought I would not count the money, but I did and it was short and he was reluctant to give it to me.

The next day he went to the DMV, next to my office, and there was a problem getting the title cleared. Apparently the car was titled to the old loan company, and they needed a letter from me to clear it. But he did not tell me this, only that there was a problem. I went to the DMV, and he was not there!! We are talking 2 minutes it took me to get there, and he left so I look like an idiot going back to find out the problem.

I called, and the financing company said they would fax me a letter and mail it to me. Just a matter of time to get it, not a drama.

The Ex has harassed me almost a week nonstop about the freaking title. The guy apparently is mad, because he thought he could not drive the car, but he can, it is just under my name right now.

I got a faxed copy this Monday and went to the DMV and I texted him when I was in tears because I took half a day off of work and wasted the whole day and the refused to give me the title still until I could get the original of the letter, not the fax.

The A-hole texted me back that if I did not get him the title that day he was taking my new are from me and giving me back the old one and suing me for the $!!!! UM HELLLLLL NO!! Are you on drugs? 2 weeks is what it normally takes to get a title! It has not even been that long, and the problem is one he created by not clearing the title when he refinanced it!.

Then he keeps calling me and harassing me and calling me names. I wanted to knock him out for like a week and a half, but yesterday he is lucky I don’t have a gun to kill him!!

My daughter was being a butt, and wanted me to do something I absolutely did not have the time for. She called him to see if he would take her, and he agreed. He was also informed that no way in hell did I have time to do what she wanted and if he took her she needed to be dropped off at my mom’s.

On my way to another errand, I called to make sure she was at my moms. She was not. I called him and her and neither answered my call. Then when he finally called me back, he acted like they were together, and then 20 minutes later said oh, she is at your house.

WHAT THE F#%#!!!! You did not take her when you said you would? Knowing I DID NOT HAVE THE TIME TO GO GET HER!!!!!

When I lost my mind, as any reasonable human being would do, he started telling me he was doing me a favor and I was crazy and should be nicer to him!!!! I am sorry? Leaving my child home alone at night without telling me, when I was planning to not come back till after midnight, and I am crazy!!!

Then I had to drive an hour back home, and when I was close he called me and was “I can get her if you really can’t take care of your own child yourself” OH HELL NO YOU DID NOT JUST SAY THAT!!! AFTER I DROVE AN HOUR BACK TO GET HER!!!

Then he called another hour later to ask me why I was being such a b^%$#!! I then when off about all the BS that past few weeks.

I feel like an idiot for thinking he would actually do what he said, and not go out of his way just to start a drama. All he has wanted for weeks was for me to lose it and yell at him! He keeps calling at all hours of the day and night to chit chat, which irritates the hell out of me, and all week I have been past the point to breaking and it is too much to deal with his BS too!

Then when he called back and tried to fake apologize and gaslight me some more, the A-HOLE said “I love you”!

ON WHAT PLANET IS HE LIVING!!! I mean really? You stress me out to the point of utter breakdown, make threats to steal my car and sue me, lie to me that you are going to take my daughter to my mothers, and waste 3 hours of my already too busy schedule, call me crazy for being mad that you endangered my child, you called me a bad parent, and a bad person; and then say you love me? How is that even close to love? BARF.

I did not give up a crap ton of money and get the world’s longest divorce so you could continue this crap and tell me you love me. I did it to get the hell away from you! There are no overnights, I am not your “Baby”, I don’t love you, I don’t want to be your friend, I don’t care how your day was. All I want is the money you owe me, and for you to mow the lawn (hell that I could do myself if I wanted to)

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Dec 20

@dtay after this particular incident, I have NC’d him as much as possible.

At one point he was stalking me so bad because I refused to speak to him that he was yelling at me thru the windows, and I called the cops on him 2 times.

I got really ill soon after this happened, and almost died 4 times. One time in the beginning he had a key to my house and when I refused to answer the phone or the door he came in my house and then my room! Freaking nuts.

But just this week it seems Karma is catching up to him. It was my birthday, so I expected some drama cause narcs are like that.

So Thursday he texted me, and I ignored him. Then Saturday he showed up at my house and was banging on the door.

He started of asking if he could have my Christmas lights. Then asked if he could borrow my phone. I thought he meant for a call, but nope he meant take my phone. HELL to the no.

So then he starts spinning a tale of how he needs a phone to deliver pizzas and his job at an IT place that pays really well somehow stoped paying his phone bill and he has no phone and can’t get it turned back on and he doesn’t even have tv or internet at home anymore, and he pays my cell bill so I should give him my phone.

So I asked him when he got fired, he insisted he still has his real job. I tell him then he should just add the phone. Ack to his cell plan and then he would have a phone. Then some nutty story. Then he starts off on how he’s living off credit cards. I then tell him if he’s making $100K + and has 5 people renting his place and he still can’t afford internet and his phone bill than maybe he should stop paying hookers.

Then he got pissed and left.

But what I think REALLY is going on is his ho of the month got sick of paying his cell phone and cut it off and or he was fired from his job and he is now working at the pizza place.

I don’t care enough to find out the truth, but is is great to see him reaping the karma he so much deserves.

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Dec 20

@phdchick Hes draining you. You need to get out of this vicious cycle of emotional abuse. Look at what you can do for yourself now for your own peace of mind. Yes, he's reaping his karma, but that's not important. What is important is that you take some positive steps to keep him away from you. Can you not get a restraining order? You can't move on if you allow him to keep abusing you. Self love and put yourself first.

Dec 22

My ex narc stalked me. I had to go no contact.


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