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Tried to stay busy today cleaning and what not since I am ha

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Tried to stay busy today cleaning and what not since I am having my grandkids in a week. Then my son and their mom are coming up north to get them. They have never been to this house I bought with my narc husband, so I'm kind of excited. Also, I'm having a small birthday party for a friend at the Eagels Club where I go to dinner every Friday night. Funny thing, my stbx called me and said that he scheduled an internet upgrade Friday evening between 5 and 6. He knows I go out to dinner at that time because we use to go together. After he moved out he told me I needed to stop my running around. I needed to stay home. He left. What a joke. Then out of the blue he says to me that nothing he ever did was good enough. Not even this. What he meant was that his continuing to pay some of the bills isn't good enough. He said he would help me financially until I start me SS which is in Aug. It isn't that nothing is good enough. The problem is he is a covert malignant narcissist. I would do anything to fix this marriage if it were remotely possible. It isn't. What happened was at the end of June 2018 he thru the most ugly, degrading, abusive, fit where he took the check books and divided out the money as he saw fit. He closed our savings account and took the money. Then he bullied me into signing an agreement to give him a lot more money so he could go buy another place. He moved out in Sept, kept coming back over and over to get his stuff. Now his stuff is finally gone. He will not file for divorce; I'm will have to. Every time he calls or I have to see him, I get so upset. If this guy was going to have a successful marriage, it would have happened long before I came along. He is an absolute monster. His own brother told me that all of those women just left him. He was such a bad act. I loved him. He had it made. He could have had anything he wanted. Instead he through an enormous fit and moved away.

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mmadwaite's picture
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Jun 11

@eddie1975 See Eddie, he always thought that because he wanted constant admiration. He can take no criticism not even if it is constructive. He wants always to be told he does everything great. When I would compliment him, he wouldn't hear me. I have actually heard this man sit and brag about himself for hours once in front of his daughter and grand children and once in front of the same daughter and her boyfriend. Keep in mind, she was still married and is to this day after a long string of boyfriends. It was word salad, a narc communication tactic. It was weird. He will never get help because in his mind, there is nothing wrong with him.

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Jun 12

It's actually pretty funny to watch them rant about how wonderful they are, and yet at the same time quite sad. They make fools of themselves, which is laughable, but then there's the opportunity cost... What could they have accomplished, if they had not been preoccupied with touting their minimal achievements?

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Jun 12

@OnwardUpward My stbx would cut off someone's foot and then buy them new shoes and thing everything is OK.

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