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Just wanted to tell you all something. I've become friends

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Just wanted to tell you all something. I've become friends with a nice lady. She joins us now on our Friday night outings. She is very outgoing and brings a lot of fun to our group. She's been married twice. Her second husband was a paranoid schizophrenic. She told me it took her eight years to get over it and really move on. She didn't want to date or anything. Many people have asked, including myself. How long will this take? How long will I be depressed and sad for? I'm not telling you this wanting you to think "Oh my gosh! It could take that long!" But rather to help put what has happened to us all in perspective. The seriousness and destruction failed long term relationships bring is devastating. No one can understand unless they've been through it. So don't be hard on yourself for not moving on fast enough. Don't think healing will never come. In reality, you need time to reconnect and rebuild your life. Do I think it will take this long for most of us? NO!!! But it could for some. It's been a year and a half total for me. I finally can see happiness and life without him. What is helping me is having a positive attitude about myself and my faith. Envision a life for yourself and be around other people. Other people in your life are so important.

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mmadwaite's picture
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Nov 20

@Scat Yes, many times. He actually stayed here for 2 1/2 months before he bought another house. Then he came back over and over again to get his stuff. He took things we bought together like a pontoon and a pool table. It was so painful This went on for months. I was a wreck. When he brought his daughter to get the pontoon, I went to my sons 300 miles away so I wouldn't have to be there. One of the times he said to me "You need to stop your running around. You need to stay home." That's what an idiot he is. He's into hurt and rescue too. That's one of the communication techniques narcs use.

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Nov 20

@mmadwaite, yeah, I agree about the rescuing. My narc pretends to rescue also. But once I was in his clutches all he did is emotionally abuse me hard core. I hear narcs like to drag things out coming back to get things and telling you stuff you forgot just to make it even more miserable, like you experienced. So ya wanna hear a funny story. My husband is always complaining we need to get rid of stuff, we have too much stuff. There are things it took me a long time to accumulate because we never had a lot of money and furniture, even used, costs a lot of money. So when I went to the paralegal she asked me how much our furniture is worth and what I wanted. So I said half, we could split everything. When she sent me my messed up paperwork she put me as wanting all the furniture. And so yanno what? I decided HE*L YES. I'm asking for everything in the house, because he's always telling me to get rid of it all.

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mmadwaite's picture
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Nov 20

@Scat LOL That's so funny. Good plan. I can believe that a paralegal screwed up your paper work. It seems incompetence is everywhere. No matter what it is you're doing, you have to be watching your back.

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