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i think the scariest part is knowing i dont belong to him i

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i think the scariest part is knowing i dont belong to him i feel damaged and used up i dont know if ill ever be able to let someone else in my heart again i would have moved the moon for him i lost weight changed everything trying to be his home and safe haven from the world to be in his corner and i tried to be the best wife i could be its just one more narc i have to let go of i gave my mom up last year now i have to give up the one thing i had in my life for 6 years that i gave my all to and my soul to i know im doing the right thing but it doesnt hurt any less

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Ravin's picture
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Nov 30

@Blueberries1234 I love that ! Having strong emotional boundaries is key. I am ashamed that I have leaned on my poor children so much . They had to watch me fight cancer and I’m sure everything including my dysfunctional marriage took a toll on them . I have social anxieties and was raised in a dysfunctional setting. I was alone too. I tried socializing when I met the Narc. I swear he smelled blood in the water. I guess I’ll try again soon. For now finding out who I am seems to be a practical endeavor. Maybe being alone isn’t so bad after all. I’m glad my children are more social then I am. I tried to make sure of it. They have friends. Where as I was not aloud to go outside or have friends growing up. So it’s been a challenge to get close to anyone especially after all the abuse. I am determined to keep trying. I’m so frightened to try some days it’s so crazy hard. Success to me is in the trying.

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Ravin's picture
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Nov 30

@Blueberries1234 I love that ! Having strong emotional boundaries is key. I am ashamed that I have leaned on my poor children so much . They had to watch me fight cancer and I’m sure everything including my dysfunctional marriage took a toll on them . I have social anxieties and was raised in a dysfunctional setting. I was alone too. I tried socializing when I met the Narc. I swear he smelled blood in the water. I guess I’ll try again soon. For now finding out who I am seems to be a practical endeavor. Maybe being alone isn’t so bad after all. I’m glad my children are more social then I am. I tried to make sure of it. They have friends. Where as I was not aloud to go outside or have friends growing up. So it’s been a challenge to get close to anyone especially after all the abuse. I am determined to keep trying. I’m so frightened to try some days it’s so crazy hard. Success to me is in the trying.

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Dec 6

@Ravin I think you are on the right track, it definitely isn't your fault. Sometimes it's great to realize that the biggest thing holding you back is the past conditioning, and of course your present beliefs about what you can or can't do. It really helps to begin to let go of both bad and good labels altogether, & start from scratch. I really just one day decided to stop judging myself. I slip up skmetimes, but I simply stopped caring what people think of me, unless it's practical aka career. But once you free yourself, you can actually be more productive whether in career, or making friends... you can FOCUS on what you want to put your energy into. "to create change, focus NOT on breaking the old, but on building the new"

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