Our MC specializes in divorce counseling for children so we
Our MC specializes in divorce counseling for children so we decided to meet with her and discuss how and when to tell our kids about the divorce. So we had that meeting last night. She agreed with me on some things and him on others but gave some good points about how to make things best for the kids. After my H had to leave to pick up our kids and take them home so I stayed and talked with the therapist for a few minutes. I talked with her a bit about some of the things that have been going on, such as telling friends and their reactions, and other things I have ranted about on this site. And I was relieved to hear her confirm that my H is not normal, that I am not going crazy and that H is not healthy. She agreed that no woman would be giving a man money for his divorce unless there is something going on or planning for something to go on. She said that given the circumstances I am doing good. I have heard the same from everybody that knows, including all the wonderful people on this site, but it is nice to hear it from a trained professional. I keep feeling like maybe I am missing something, maybe if I could change my views or feelings I could have made things work. I know in my head that nothing I do will change but sometimes my heart has trouble accepting that. Having a therapist tell me that I am not crazy helped. I am sure I will still have those moments of "what if" but I will get past it and know I did my best.
I'm so glad for you. Validation is very relieving and empowering. :)
@Elizabeth1122 that is so terrible that your ex would lie that way. Why can't they just accept that they are wrong and work to improve their choices in the future? Instead they keep making bad choices. I feel like H is trying to taking responsibility but only to a certain point. When the punishment gets to harsh for him he starts trying to defend and blame. He hasn't been lying about me, at least not that I am aware of, but who knows what will happen in time.sorry your ex is such a problem for you.
@skhc Thank you. It did feel good to hear.