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Four months after we separated my ex started seeing this guy

Four months after we separated my ex started seeing this guy...I have no idea how they met...Almost 8 months later she texts me saying how she wanted to leave him but was scared...He threatened her saying he knows people who would make her disappear for 100 bucks, Canadian, thats $76.40 cents American minus the taxes...( not sure if the guy uses it as a write off in his taxes)
The first flood she went through at her house forced her to stay at his mothers house...That's when she found out he had no job, drivers license or vehicle...He pretended to his mother and my ex that he was working on little projects for clients in his mom's shed out back...One day my ex comes back from work and decides to go look out back in the shed where his mom said he was at...Well, she couldn't find him...Out in back of the shed there's a trail leading into the woods...So she decided to take a walk and see if he was back there...As she got further, she noticed a huge mountain of empty beer bottles and cases...The trail ends up joining a road right in front of a corner store...So he used to spend his days drinking in the woods hidind out from his mother lol...This guy is 50 for cryin out loud!...She had no idea he was an alcoholic who loved nature that much lol...At that time I thought she left his pathetic a$$..
Two days ago, which is now approximately a year and a half later, she texts me asking how my puppy is doing...I'm like whatever, she's alright...Then she starts talking to me about how we should meet up so Stella, Which is my dog, can meet her 2 dogs for walks...I just told her I have no time and that my schedule is so busy these days...Then she starts talking about this guy whos living at her place and refuses to leave and how she's afraid of him...I'm like who is this guy?...It's that same douche from a year and a half ago...I'm sorry, but I did laugh, not nice I know...I just couldn't believe she went from me to a loser like him...I told her to call the cops...Now she's afraid that if he finds out, he's gonna hurt her...So she asks me for help getting him out of there...I was like sorry but I don't need some nutcase coming around my house and f'ing shyt up when I'm not around...To date this guy still has no job,license or vehicle...She then explains how we should go out and do things together like we used to...No thanks!...So during all this time we spent apart, she hasn't experienced what it truly means to cope alone and heal...I have almost 3 years ahead of her fixing myself...There's no way in h3ll I'm gonna jeopardize that to a woman who betrayed me...FAK OFF, seriously! So that's my story that I wanted to share :)

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PatMill's picture
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Jul 21

@SamAnn Yeah it is quite a mess, but for her. I'm doing so ok now. I wouldn't take her back if she came crawling on her knees. Do I still care for her? Sure I do, just like any other human being. Would I waist my precious time on someone who has hurt me as she did? Not a chance. She f'ed up and destroyed who I was for some time. If your stb treats you anyway besides the way you feel you deserve, then it's best to let him go. Do it for your kids and their healthy future. It's much better being raised by a single mother than a toxic marriage. I've been it that mess as a child and it definitely wasn't good for me. I ended up being a demon child sorta speak, and the only thing that changed my views on life was love when I met my ex. That anger he shows towards you like you mentioned in your other thread is going to affect your children. All I can say is put all the other reasons why aside and do what's best for them. I wish you the best.

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Jul 21

@PatMill I agree, just hard to do it i guess. Thank you! I wish you the best as well!!

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Jul 21

@SamAnn You can do it. Be greatful your parents are there for you. You're lucky for that.

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