This has been a true journey. Its been 3 years since I left

This has been a true journey. Its been 3 years since I left him. Recently he found out Im seeing someone. Tell me why this man goes out of his way to create problems between my significant other and I. Its bad enough I have to deal with my feelings. I tried keeping it cordial with him but that doesnt work. I cut him off completely. I have blocked him from everywhere and he still finds away to contact me. He even found me on tiktoc, can you believe that. He looks for me more now than when we were together. So anyway.. moving on. I have been talking to two guys... I told them I was keeping my options open. So i didnt want to be intimate with neither. I now decided who I wanted to focus on. I was leaning more towards one but I had a gut feeling about him so I ended it. Im listening to my gut, no matter what. They both laid there cards on the table but I wanted to know who was sincere. The one couldnt keep up with his front and of course I called him out on it and he didnt like it. He called me broken. lol no honey experienced is the word. "if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck" it was fun while it lasted. I loved talking to him. the conversations but he got distracted and im not wasting no time with ppl trying to find out who they are or where they stand in life. so contestant #2 which was originally #1. I went on vacation and he would say hi here and there but no convo. days would go by and i wouldnt hear from him. being that i have had bad luck with men, i wasnt liking this. So i told him i didnt want anything else with him, that we could stay as friends. so i was done with my vaca and i decided to reach out and say Hello. We got to talking and he asked me what happened, so i told him he wasnt showing much interest so i wasnt wasting my time. He expressed his feeling and i was totally wrong about him. so i decided to just take things sloooowly. I cant be jumping the gun like i do. Its been a fun journey. im choosing who i want in my life and who i do not but it is a working progress. Im teaching myself some self discipline. Im not rushing into no relationship anytime soon but I am enjoying getting to know new faces.

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B0nyta's picture
(7610)
Jan 12

so contestant #2 is history as well. Ive been back from vaca and still havent seen him. He called me a few days ago and invited me to go fishning.. im still waiting for him to swing by. Another one smh.

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Scat's picture
(341915)
Jan 12

@B0nyta It's always been that way with me and men. They play there little games, tell you one thing, and it's another. Covert narcs are super good at hiding things like that guy you just mentioned you thought was sleeping. I mean, it's okay if a person needs their time, or whatever, it's just that they could tell their person rather than keeping her waiting and wondering. It's basically inconsiderate in some respects.

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Scat's picture
(341915)
Jan 12

@B0nyta, I think you're wise keeping your options open and looking at what they do rather than just believing what what they say. Actions show the man for what he truly is.

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