We all spend a lot of time venting and talking about what we

We all spend a lot of time venting and talking about what we have been through. Which is great, it is hard to find a place to release what we think and feel.

Today I want to ask everyone what have you learned and what will you never accept in the future after what you have been through.

For me I will no longer accept or accommodate people in my life who are not 100% invested in staying in my life. Yes when you start dating you are not getting married, but you should also not have one foot out the door.

Don’t want to participate in a family function, that is fine, bye, next.
Not sure what you want, that is fine, it is obviously not me then.
I ask you nicely to not do something that drives me nuts, and you insist on pissing me off and gas lighting me because I am mad, GTFO, the door is right there.
You make a mistake or hurt my feelings and when I cry tell me I am “manipulating you” Bbubububy.
You try to diminish me to make yourself feel better, hell no. I have no time for that.
Want to bully or nag my daughter, I know where to hide the body.
Don’t want to have a weekly date night? Sorry I did not realize you were stupid, next.

So what is it for the rest of you?

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ctine1730's picture
[2375]
Nov 3

@Kas1966 It didn't help me with this relationship because my BF has always trusted me 100%. Never accused me of cheating. I wish I could say the same about him, but I will never trust anyone 100%. I wish every day he hadn't cheated. Its going to be a long way back and harder then I thought. I've lost friends and family members are mad that I'm trying to work it out.

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Corvette's picture
[1165]
Nov 3

I will dare anyo e that gives me any reason to even suspectinfedikity, I will have no lier, I will ha e no one that tries to diminish ish my feelings as silly or insecure. First sign of porn or online friends and their out. Chaos, drinking problems, or drama won't happen. If I EVER look again. It will. E for the old fashion morale fa
Ily guy only, and I will know him **** well before it's gets serious in any form.

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[2150]
Nov 3

I think narcs are pros at throwing bread crumbs....they avenge all this horrendous behavior....know their on the line so they say something nice.... kinda....then we begin questioning ourselves and bank on something that gives us some kind of false hope to keep us where we are. Then the cycle begins again. That's how they keep us hooked...as it slowly unravels and the ugly truth is undeniable.

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