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I need guidance please from people familiar with scripture.

I need guidance please from people familiar with scripture. I'm struggling with the vows I took and kept for 35 years, the vows he broke through infidelity, and post divorce dating. I'm comfortable knowing that my h committed a justifiable reason for divorce according to scripture. I understand I would be free to remarry. My h however must remain alone. Should he brake it he'll have to answer to God. My problem is opting for a legal separation due to health insurance and the retirement growth during the last years of working. How will dating be viewed if I am legally separated vs divorce. The last thing I want to do is begin a new relationship with an albatross around our knecks. Is there justification for me to date or must I be divorced to be right with God? There have been some very good discussions in Divorce Care and it really got me thinking.

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Fiftyyoung's picture
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Jul 10

@Scat I agree because there's no way at my age I could support myself. I'm sure he's very complicated in his thinking. He doesn't even want to think about counseling.

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Jul 10

The first thing is to get counseling from a Pastor or Biblical counselor. Your focus is not dating someone else but healing from all of the years of torment you have experienced. You have to learn to let Jesus heal you and play a role in healing yourself also. You may have an attraction to a certain type of men / abusive ppl that you are unaware of which will cause you to date another man just like the last one. Biblically, you could have left a long time ago but dating again should not be considered at this juncture. Healing and discovery of who you are and your relationship patterns are in deep need of help and healing. When the unbeliever leaves you’re no longer bound to him. 1Cor 7;15.

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Fiftyyoung's picture
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Jul 11

@GGee I see you are new to SG, welcome.

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