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So 4 days ago, my husband of almost 3 years confessed that h

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So 4 days ago, my husband of almost 3 years confessed that he had sex with maybe random 20 women, he reported that he began sleeping around over a year ago. He can’t seem to give me a reason why apart from the fact that he “lost control” and needs professional help because he maybe a sex addict. My world is completely destroyed! I feel like my entire marriage was a lie! I haven’t cried mostly anger and shock! I’ve been staying with family and he’s threatening to kill himself if I divorce him. He wants to work through this and believes that God can put us back together. I’m not sure if I have the fight in me, I want to file for divorce and move on with my life! But I also still love him!! Any advice would be appreciated!

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[850]
Dec 10

@Sdiamond1026 so you do anything to try and bring those butterflies back? To make her fall in love again? To respark that flame? Plan a date night, buy her something nice to wear? Get a sitter for the evening, by taking some initiative. I know none of this is your fault but if you want this woman like you say you do, Id highly recommend chasing after her romantically.

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Dec 10

@KoalaE
I did this for 17 months after the affairs.. I made sure we had a weekly date, lunch or dinner. I would stay home from work so we could spend the day together. I would plan a night at a hotel here and there and go to restaurants we’ve never been to. We took a trip to Charleston, SC. I thought things were getting better all this time and the trip was around the end of that first 17 months. That’s when she withdrew from me and told me on the way home and that she wasn’t feeling it and faked it the past 17 months so I wouldn’t leave. I said then we need to do more together. She told me we have done a lot and the feelings aren’t coming back and she doubts they ever will. When I said ok, we need to plan more spontaneous things and have fun, she told me I annoy her and she doesn’t want to be around me more. I’ve sent flowers and brought coffee home and stuff out of the blue.. I felt like I was kissing her *** and rewarding her and it felt as if I was begging her to stay with me after she was the one that cheated. She didn’t reciprocate much as it got worse and worse as time went on. Now it’s really worse than ever I think. We get along and watch TV together and go out as a family to dinner and go on a date here and there but she makes me feel like we are just friends/roommates. She never just comes up and hugs me or grabs my hand or comes onto me. Her excuse for it all is that she is f***** up mentally. They do say she is either borderline or bipolar or both.

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Dec 10

@Sdiamond1026 oh my goodness, I’m so so sorry that you have living this way. You deserve to be happy. This break my heart for you. Life is too short to be unhappy.

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