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Will probably be getting married in April.. not sure if I'm

Will probably be getting married in April.. not sure if I'm doing this because I have no one else in my life to tell me it's too soon. I've never been married before.. im just lonely, in another country, and my depression has caused me to lose all of my friends.. I wish i could wait, i dont want to leave my work or my country.. but what do I do..? Do I really want to get married or is my depression giving me cold feet.. I have no one to turn to and im scared. No one cares and I feel like that's why I'm just letting this happen. I've thought a lot about if its what i want but since no one cares about my well being it just feels like i should just let it happen. i dont know what to do. i dont feel love like i used to, it just feels like what im supposed to do. i wish i could feel love and be happy about it, i wish i could say for certain its what i want.. i just feel like im running out of time now to get married, find security, have a family and its just my only choice now, i hate it

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[1950]
Feb 15

Well, marriage is a huge decision and shouldn't be taken lightly or done quickly, really. However, I have to say I did marry quickly, and being uncertain. We are still together, but should I have?? It is what it is, now. Hind sight tho, it would have been better to wait till I was sure. It is a real risk, we shouldn't marry till we feel we can't go on without them, and they are our completion in this life. Love needs to be strong enough to overcome the storms of life. First steps would be for me, if I were in your shoes and had the knowledge I have now, is to pray a lot! Also, to take magnesium and ginseng to get out of funk, and calm my mind, body and spirit. The ginseng gets rid of sticky negative thoughts and anxiety that keep us down. Then, I would quickly get involved in personal growth interests, like art classes, or education classes, or support groups, church even, so I know me better and am in a social and satisfying setting so I don't make choices out of crisis or panic. Then we are less likely to make wrong choices. Get better, then look at choices from a better perspective. Hope this helps. =) Remember, you are a treasure!!, not a left over. You are loved and worthy of love.

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[1380]
Feb 15

@crowningglory19 thank you so much.. what you said brought me to tears. i still feel like a left over a lot. I just want my life to feel calm again. I waited 7 years through school to get married to the love of my life and thne he left me and I feel like, I can't wait another 7 years again.. I don't have much time to have a family anymore. I cant spend as much time waiting to be sure as I did before, which is scary because I want to take time and be sure.. I don't want to feel rushed. Who i am with forever, means a lot to me.. I think a church would help. I am not very religious but I used to go to church as a kid. I am so far from my family now, maybe it would make me feel comfortable here.. thank you

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[1950]
Feb 17

You are so welcome! You are worth the time it takes to find The One. Breathe, don't rush or panic. You do have time, and when it's meant to be, it will happen. Pray, God listens and cares. He will guide you. I'm so sorry the one you loved and gave so much time to left, I know it hurts terribly! Open your heart to possibilities and live life to it's fullest. <3

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