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Hello Supporters. Right now I feel really down and hopeless.

Hello Supporters. Right now I feel really down and hopeless. I've been trying so hard for years now to accept who I am, but it's only getting worst with time. I'm very critical of myself and I aim for meeting certain expectations I have. I feep that I'm not meeting any of these expectations...i'm not attractive enough, I'm not smart enough, I'm not capable of establishing and maintaining relationships with people. I just feel like a big LOSER in life. I question my existence at this point, I can't seem to do anything right. I have a therapist and a mentor that I struggle to share this with because I fear judgement. I don't need anymore judgment than I'm already giving to myself. I just want to do well in some aspect of my life...give me reason to keep going.

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Oct 26

@rucksaar I am hearing you I'm on the same page my problem is addiction to alcohol as a substitute for a need to be fulfilled, shopping is the same in terms of addiction, you need to ask yourself what of your needs are not being met and why? I also suffer with loneliness as acute as yours. My addiction stemmed from childhood trauma which led to alcholism and that undermined my life, as well but I always felt unloved as a child and not confident building bonds because of it, it went in phases and I did alot of manoeuvrering in my life to cover up my insecurities. I am now in trouble with alcohol and smoking leading to other problems. I'm now 59 it's alot to untangle and now I am trying to sort out things I should have been trying to sort out when I was in my late teens there were reasons for it, the relationship with my mother namely. I think she resented me as she found motherhood difficult and I felt unloved because she never showed me much if any love but I witnessed her behave differently with others, my father, my cousins, her neices and nephews, her own family 2 brothers and parents and just about everyone outside our family who all thought how wonderful she was but she was not the same to me and my brother and she also behaved differently, kinder if we were alone together but more hostile if we weren't especially if outside of family around her friends. She died 22 months ago at 87 I was desperate at the end they she did die I was also mortified because I loved her but I was also desperate to address my pain which lead to my alcholism which naturally caused other problems for me, it also compounded problems in relationships and it was not possible for me to get to address when she was alive and family were complicit by their ignorance of how damaging my mother's relationship for me, they just couldn't see it, they still cant, my brother is the only person who understands most of it and he too is an alcoholic and has had a pretty difficult life himself because of his relationship with our mother. I'm glad I saw you post and have been able to articulate in this post to you what happened to me it has helped me just by posting and sharing my pain. However old you are and I'm, 59 keeping going and keep trying to resolve your problems and uncover where your pain stemmed from and try to address it in whatever way you can, step by step, day by day and keep trying as hard as you can and be as kind as you can to yourself x

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Oct 26

@Breakingfree Let's look at the immediate need for your door to be fixed. I don't know where you live. If it's in the US you can contact a local home builder and ask if they have someone who can come a fix your door.

It's better to go there in person to speak to them. If they can't do it, they may be able to give you the name of someone who fixes doors. Fixing doors is a specialty and requires someone with experience otherwise you may have repeated problems later on.

Thank you for reaching out. I am retired from providing personal help. However, since you’re exploring, I have two suggestions. The first is to explore Siddha Yoga. You can find more at the following link:

https://www.siddhayoga.org

If you decide to pursue it, I recommend taking part in a Shaktipat Intensive that is offered at different ashrams around the world during the year. The website will give you more information or you can call any of the ashrams listed at the website to find out more. The intensive will provide a beautiful initiation to your journey towards peace. I am a siddha yogi and I can tell you that an intensive is a very profound experience.

Another suggestion if you’re a reader, is to read a book called Conversations with God-Book 1 by Neale Donald Walsch and another one called The Vortex by Esther and Jerry Hicks. These two books have provided many insights I have received on my journey inward. I wish you every success on your personal journey.

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Oct 27

Thank you so much for your message and advice. The door is a tricky one I've gone on quiet a few different tangents to try and get the job done but I haven't approached a builder and or for a recommend so I will try that. From my attempts to get the door fixed my estimation is, that is it a specialist job, just like you say, my experience is specialists can do it but their main business is making and fitting new doors jobs worth thousands. The hinges cost 7euros, job itself probably take less than an hour to actually do so they are not interested. I approached another specialist they denied they could refit the door and wanted to sell me a new door I went along with that just in case I had to resort to it, that was a few weeks ago, they said they would let me know the cost, they haven't and I suspect because they know I don't actually need a new door and they are not going to get back to me about supplying one unless I go back to them and push them to supply one and then they will be conscious free to sell me an expensive new door that I don't actually need!!! I might have to double bluff a builder or something because I want a handmade kitchen so get quotes for that and at the same time ask if they can refit the door etc., and if they can work out something on the kitchen as an incentive to get the door fixed at the same time etc., etc., I will look into Siddha Yoga, Shaktipat. Yoga has been appearing on my radar in relation to inner peace together with transcendental meditation. Learnt about TM David Lynch artist, film maker also Russel Brand on TM meditation them in discussion. Russel Brand is doing some excellent work at the moment he talks about yoga. Dr Gabor Mate, his work is great, seen a pod cast him and Russel Brand in discussion excellent. I'm sure you might know of their work. I have come across Conversations with God back some time ago maybe 30 years. I haven't heard of The Vortex I will look into that. Thank you so very much for getting in contact with me, hope we speak again soon.

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