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I've already been given some really great advice here. Thank you all for that. I'm having a very hard time maintaining positivity and putting it all into practice, though. I often have days when I wake up happy, inspired, and motivated, only to flop back to hopelessness and total depression by nightfall. Sometimes it happens the other way around. A lot of the time there's some small thing that sets me off. Maybe I'll see a comment somewhere online in which a guy mentions he's been single and virgin for much longer even than I have so far, which deeply terrifies me. Or, like last night, I'll hear a story about some incredible, motivated person's amazing accomplishment. Rather than inspire me, it makes me hate myself all the more because I could never be like that. I understand that I need to be positive and believe in myself if I want things to improve, but how do I make myself actually FEEL that? How do I make positivity my natural response? Right now, it seems like my natural response is to wallow in depression and self-pity so that someone will magically fix my situation for me. It's horrible. And I'm worried because my fits of depression are actually getting worse.

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Airbornebovine's picture
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Jul 10

@DClady1952 I appreciate the feedback, but simply avoiding triggers doesn't feel like a solution to me. If I always avoid them, then they'll always have that power over me, you know? And there are certain triggers that I unfortunately can't avoid at all. For example, seeing happy, attractive couples together every day in the dining room of the restaurant where I work is sometimes a trigger. I think you're right that I should find a therapist and consider medication, though. I'll work on that.

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@Airbornebovine

You are right in that people cannot avoid all triggers, but you can work on the ones that you are able to avoid. Working in a restaurant would be a place where you are constantly reminded and get triggered into the negative thinking. I am happy to hear that you are considering talking with a therapist. I think you will find it very beneficial and if medication is needed, it will be worth trying. God bless and I wish you well.

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Jul 11

@Airbornebovine I think therapy or counseling is great, or medication, or exercise, acupuncture, talking it out, basically, my approach is throw a lot of stuff at a problem and see what sticks :)

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