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I don't want to tell my whole story. Tooo som it up I feel l

I don't want to tell my whole story. Tooo som it up I feel like I have been given my whole heart to someone without the capabilities to love me back, no matter how many promises ghee makes. I feel like I am living in a dark cloud, nothing means anything to me anymore, no matter how many hobbies I take up, what achievements I make, who I surround myself with, it doesn't matter. I don't want to leave and break my own heart any further. I'm so tired of trying claw my way out of this depression and getting nowhere. I am spent and I am lost.

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Apr 12

@SquishieKitten Thank you for the advice. I really appriciate. Thing is I've tried to talk to him over and over and over again. He shuts down. He gets frusterated because he says I bring up the same argument over and over and over again. What is just trying to communicate and connect in my mind is a conflict and argument in his. He is right, it is the same topic and problems, because he shuts down on me and feels attacked before we ever find any solutions or get to any type of place of understanding. I've tried every approach possible.

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Apr 12

@Mel00

Your boyfriend needs to communicate better in order for both of you to resolve your problems. Maybe you could tell him that you need to talk with him, but you are not there to have an argument. If he agrees, tell him what you are feeling and that you would like to solve the problems you are having. Tell him that if he is not willing to talk about these things, the problems will continue. This conflict between both of you is causing your depression to worsen. I hope things will work out for you. I feel badly for what you are going through. Another thought is that you could write him a letter explaining everything that you want to talk to him about. You can reassure him that you still want to be with him, but it is important and would mean a lot to you if he would consider talking.

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Dear Me100 [135] I’m truly sorry for you are going through. It sounds that you have been through a lot recently.. It is understandable the way that you feel for the situation that you are experiencing with the lack of understanding between you and your boyfriend. But let me tell you that you have a purpose in life. Even in the darkest moments in our lives there’s always hope. Please, let me tell you that you are not alone. Things happen for a reason. It is a hard situation that you are living now, but do not feel discourage. Hang in there!! Please do not give up! It is not clear what your situation is, however I encourage you to cool off and leave the situation. Have you ever thought of seeking counseling for yourself? Christian counseling or therapy can be helpful to work through things like this. Maybe it was not a good idea to repeatedly insist on the same topic with your boyfriend. I encourage you to discuss this topic in therapy. You are valuable and worth of fighting for. When we accept that we have something, forgiveness is the first step to change and healing. Have you consider forgiving yourself, your boyfriend and situations? Forgiveness does not mean that what is he doing is right, however means that you let the problem go. Forgiveness will return your peace and joy. Forgiveness is the first step of healing and change. Please do not give up! Hang in there! In that way you could start a new chapter in your life and you will see the difference and the impact that this will have in yourself. This list-ly is extremely important for you are going through: https://list.ly/list/1CE4-looking-up-from-the-stubborn-darkness. Do you have a faith or believe system to help guide you through this? I do not know whether if you believe in God but I will keep you in my prayers, my friend. – keep us posted, OK?

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